Loving Ourselves

Our close friends are our close friends because we see their strengths. We know they have weaknesses, but they are overshadowed by what we see as gifts and skills that we admire. When asked, we help them build up their faults, but mostly we overlook them for the sake of our friendship. They bring light and joy to our lives despite minor flaws.

We are far more critical of ourselves. We rationalize that our strengths are common and our weaknesses are glaring; to doubt yourself is to be human.

It is easy for us to struggle with our weaknesses, our frustration with our sin, and our lack of focus on Christ. We become our own worst critics. We need to remember that God created us and understands our weaknesses. He understands that we will falter.

Psalm 103: 13-14, “The Lord is like a father to his children, tender and compassionate to those who fear him. For he knows how weak we are”

Life is full of pressure to excel. We have conflicting roles as parent, child, sibling, provider, mentor, and friend. Many of us are someone’s child, someone’s sibling, and someone’s parent at the same time. We are a provider at work and home. We play roles as the mentor and friend and sometimes the disciplinarian to the same people. In all of these things, we want to do our best. But we are mere mortals with limited capacity.

Ecclesiastes 3:20, “Both go to the same place—they came from dust, and they return to dust.”

We need to rise above self-condemnation. We need to find a way to replay the tapes of our victories over the sound of our defeats. God does that; God rejoices when we obey. God delights when we overcome. God wants us to live a life worth living, not a life filled with regret and remorse. When we turn from God, God does not turn from us.

Romans 3:3, “What then? If some did not believe, their unbelief would not nullify the faithfulness of God, will it?”

SATAN LOVES DOUBT

One of Satan’s most effective tools to keep us distant from Christ is self-doubt. Satan knows we all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. He uses that knowledge to his advantage. He knows many of us will see through this attempt to vilify our existence, so he takes a more circuitous route; he magnifies our flaws until they overshadow our strengths. The Grand Canyon was created through millions of years of erosion, don’t let slight imperfections create vast chasms in your faith.

Corinthians 11:14, “ And no wonder! For Satan, himself transforms himself into an angel of light.”

He does not lead us to outright self-condemnation, just self-incrimination. He tells us God forgives sin if we truly repent and turn from our ways, but we aren’t doing that, are we? Are we turning from our sinful ways? If we are truly repentant, why do we still sin? Other people are doing a better job of it than we are. Other people have their act together. God is not happy with our effort. We create separation from God.

1 John 1:9, “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.”

Stop letting this broken world get inside your head and dictate your existence. Stop comparing yourself to others around you. Instead, compare yourself to the person Christ has always wanted you to be. He created you to be that person. You have everything you need to achieve it. It won’t be the same as anyone around you. You are unique in this world; embrace that uniqueness. Although time and again, you will fall short or fail, that is the by-product of living in a broken world. It does not define the person God made you.

What will distance you from Christ is not your sin; it is the thought that your sin will separate you from Christ. Your decision to dwell on your shortcomings is the differentiator, not the shortcomings. Everyone is created uniquely for a specific purpose. Comparing your purpose with someone else’s purpose is meaningless. Embrace your moment, rest in the assurance that you and you alone were created for it; no one can be a better you.

Esther 4:14, “Perhaps this is the moment for which you have been created.”

TURN THE TIDE

Philippians 4:8, “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.”

Whenever negative thoughts creep into your head, change directions. We all have a laundry list of good qualities, many we take for granted. If a list of good qualities is hard to remember, write them down. Keep adding to the list as new things come to mind. Soon you will start to see you as God sees you, beautifully and wonderfully made.

Psalms 139:14, “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”

C.S Lewis says in Mere Christianity: “Aim at Heaven, and you will get the earth thrown in: aim at earth, and you will get neither.” Focus on the great attributes given to you by God, and joy, peace, and contentment will be yours. Focus on being what the world defines, and you will lose your salvation along with joy, peace, and contentment.

1 Samuel 16:7, “… The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”

What Is Godly Purpose?

Most Christians want to serve Christ. Once we admit that to ourselves, we immediately say, but. We want to help in our way, to the people we choose, using our disposable resources within our timetable. We do not wish to serve ungrateful people in a faraway land, using up our hard-earned vacation time. Thinking this is not the same as saying it, so we’re good. Right?

How often do we fit the Gospel into our situation; rather than fit our circumstances into the Gospel?

PURPOSE

Mother Teresa, in her book, The Joy in Loving: A Guide to Daily Living, wrote, “I am a little pencil in God’s hands. He does the thinking. He does the writing. He does everything, and sometimes it is really hard because it is a broken pencil, and He has to sharpen it a little more.”

Paul reminds us that if we genuinely pursue the will of God, no matter the outcome, we can count on it serving God’s purpose. It is not for us to determine the time or method God will choose to use us for His Kingdom.

Romans 8:28 “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”

God created us to do good works predestine for us to accomplish. Preparation does not mean just our time and money but also our gifts, passions, education, experiences, and even where we are. God will sometimes send you; mostly, He will use you exactly where you are.

Ephesians 1:11 “In him we were also chosen, having been predestined according to the plan of him who works out everything in conformity with the purpose of his will.”

I have a purpose. I was created as a unique creature with specific skills and afforded specific resources to accomplish an individual task. But I have free will in choosing both if and how I will respond. So I can accept that I have this unique purpose without actually working to advance it.

Tom Shuler wrote an excellent book entitled “Metaporphyx.” He tries to clarify the process of both understanding and fulfilling God’s purpose in our lives. It looks at this purpose as not a thing or a single event but a continuous process that repeats itself, each cycle building on the last. A pivot point punctuates each cycle or season. A pivot point is a critical event that causes us to both reassess and redefine our direction. However, the redefinition of our direction does not alter our purpose. The purpose remains the same, but the direction constantly changes based on the seasons of our lives.

 So again, what is our purpose?

HINT

John 15:1-27,“I am the true vine, and my Father is the vinedresser. Every branch in me that does not bear fruit he takes away, and every branch that does bear fruit he prunes, that it may bear more fruit. Already you are clean because of the word that I have spoken to you. Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit by itself, unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you abide in me. I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing. “

Our purpose has to do with bearing fruit. So, what does the Bible say about fruit?

James 2:14-26, “What good is it, my brothers, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can that faith save him? If a brother or sister is poorly clothed and lacking in daily food, and one of you says to them, “Go in peace, be warmed and filled,” without giving them the things needed for the body, what good is that? So also, faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead. But someone will say, “You have faith, and I have works.” Show me your faith apart from your works, and I will show you my faith by my works. …”

First of all, the fruit we are looking for comes from the Spirit. Not every good work qualifies, just those that are created out of an abiding love and obedience to the Spirit. Second, it is active and not passive. We must do something. We can not just say, “God loves you, go in peace.” We must minister to their actual needs. “So also, faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead.” Dead, as in entirely worthless.

To summarize up to this point, I have a unique and specific purpose for which I was created, and that purpose requires that I do something material. We also know.

Philippians 1:6 “And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.”

I end this thought knowing that whatever my purpose, I will be successful if I abide in Christ and diligently search. As I’m still working on the whole purpose, God has assured me that I will eventually succeed.

Psalm 67, “May God be gracious to us and bless us and make his face shine on us— so that your ways may be known on earth, your salvation among all nations. May the peoples praise you, God; may all the peoples praise you. May the nations be glad and sing for joy, for you rule the peoples with equity and guide the nations of the earth. May the peoples praise you, God; may all the peoples praise you. The land yields its harvest; God, our God, blesses us. May God bless us still so that all the ends of the earth will fear him.”

There is no Neutral

Jeremiah 9:23, “This is what the Lord says: “Let not the wise boast of their wisdom or the strong boast of their strength or the rich boast of their riches.”

Pride

Pride is a high or inordinate opinion of one’s dignity, importance, merit, or superiority; Pride is the root of most sin. Pride is the catalyst that starts the reaction. Pride is the insidious emotion that lurks behind most arguments and hurt feelings. Pride deprives us of knowledge, wisdom, friendship, and self-respect.

Proverbs 13:10, “Where there is strife, there is pride, but wisdom is found in those who take advice.”

In his book, Mere Christianity, C.S. Lewis said: “According to Christian teachers, the essential vice, the utmost evil, is Pride. Unchastity, anger, greed, drunkenness, and all that, are mere fleabites in comparison: it was through Pride that the devil became the devil: Pride leads to every other vice: it is the complete anti-God state of mind… it is Pride which has been the chief cause of misery in every nation and every family since the world began.”

James 1:14–15, “Each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire. Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin, and sin, when it is fully grown, brings forth death.”

All of us have heard Proverbs 16:18, “Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall.” When we unleash our inner desires unchecked, we know that bad things happen. We say things and do things that we regret even when we are right. We look back and feel a sense of humiliation at our actions. We know we could have handled it better. We know we lost some of the positive impacts of our defense because of our presentation. Yet, we’re considered arrogant and overbearing instead of being thought of as right.

We live in a competitive world where our image is important. “Perception is reality” is almost the tagline of most lives. The idea of faking it until you make it is supposed to motivate us to stretch our abilities. We are constantly marketing ourselves to others around us.

We want to walk the fine line between seeing ourselves as made in the image of God, yet a descendant of the Garden of Eden. We do not wish to diminish who God created, but we understand we are flawed. So we oscillate between Pride in who God made us be and humility in who we are. And then there is everyone else; who are they compared to me?

Humility

The Christian attribute that counters pride is humility. Humility is not weakness. Humility does hot require us to acquis our position or take a subordinate role. Humility does not allow for hypocrisy. It is not about right and wrong; it is about presentation. The message is the message; it is how you present the message that is important.

Psalm 10:4, “In his pride, the wicked man does not seek him; in all his thoughts there is no room for God.”

Humility is about bringing God back into the conversation. Our foundation is still the scriptures, and our objective is still to attract people to Christ. Worldly issues will come and go; God’s continence will always prevail.

Jeremiah 50:31, “Behold, I am against you, O arrogant one,” declares the Lord God of hosts, “For your day has come, the time when I will punish you.”

When we engage Christ in our conversations, we become empowered by His compassion and grace. As a result, we will be held in esteem by the creator of the universe.

James 4:10, “Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up.”

Empowerment

How do we empower ourselves through humility? First, we need to have confidence that Christ will not allow us to suffer needlessly. There has to be an inner strength to present ourselves in a Godly way, and God will honor that behavior. Do not let your Pride control your reaction. Look up and not out when engaging in conversation, especially when passion is involved.

Proverbs 27:2, “Let someone else praise you, and not your own mouth; an outsider, and not your own lips.”

Christ should direct all of your conversations. The Gospel is the foundation of all truth. Any time your actions deviate from Gospel teaching, you have shut God out. The way to overcome Pride is to bring Christ back into your conversations.

Jeremiah 9:24, “But those who wish to boast should boast in this alone: that they truly know me and understand that I am the Lord who demonstrates unfailing love and who brings justice and righteousness to the earth, and that I delight in these things. I, the Lord, have spoken!.”

Why Spend Time with God?

There are three powerful reasons to create an intimate relationship with Christ. By intimate, I mean a daily personal ongoing dialog.

a. Relationships take time to build.

b. Strong relationships can be counted on during a crisis.

c. We were created to love and be loved.

Build a Relationship

All relationships take time. A relationship with God is unlike other relationships in many ways but still follows the rules of other relationships. We are important to God; He wants a strong relationship with us. But a relationship is a two-way street. He can not have a strong relationship with us if we do not encourage the same relationship with Him.

Luke 12:7, “Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Therefore don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.”

How often do you talk to your best friend? How important is it to you to know what they are doing? How strongly do you want to be involved in what they are doing? To whom do you share good news and bad news? Is that relationship any different from your relationship with God?

Matthew 5:6, “God blesses those who hunger and thirst for justice, for they will be satisfied.”

What would your friends feel like if you only spoke to them when you needed them to do something for you? How would you feel if someone treated you this way? Relationships are about understanding each other’s deepest desires of the heart. Relationships are about sharing the daily joys and triumphs of your life, along with the challenges. Take time to thank God for every moment of joy that happens in your life, as it happens. Acknowledge the challenges and ask for guidance.

Jesus made time to get away from His earthly calling to speak with His Father; He understood the need to keep the relationship centered on His life and constantly renewed.

Mark 1:35, “And in the morning, rising up a great while before day, he went out and departed into a solitary place, and there prayed.”

Daily intimacy with God is vital in creating a lasting relationship that will weather any storm. The strength and depth of your relationship with Him is a barometer of your trust in Him.

Draw Strength to Fight the Daily Battles

It is essential to spend time alone with God because God is the source of our strength, and we need His strength to fight the spiritual battles of our lives.

John 15:4. “Remain in Me, and I will remain in you. Just as no branch can bear fruit by itself unless it remains in the vine, neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in Me.”

He goes on to say;

John 15:7-8, “If you abide in me, and my words abide in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you. By this, my Father is glorified, that you bear much fruit and so prove to be my disciples.”

We live in a broken world. That has almost become a cliché. We all know this, but we somehow still believe we can navigate the turbulent waters of daily life without help. Somehow we come to think that we only need the sustenance of the vine for the more significant problems of our lives, not the daily grind.

In many cases, it is the daily grind that introduces problems because of the lack of fruit in our daily walk. Having a continuous intimate relationship with Christ will smooth out some of these challenges. His presence in our daily walk will remind us of how we should live. The constant dialog will nudge us back on track when we stray.

It will also give you the confidence to know that Christ is there in the tough times. These are when the pain is so great we forget to ask for help. Our mind is so occupied with the circumstance that we fail to look up. Sometimes, we even feel God has stepped away, and we are on our own.

Strong and solid relationships do not abandon each other in time of need; they bond closer together. So don’t wait until you need a friend to create a friend.

To Love and Be Loved

1 Corinthians 13:13, “And now these three remain faith, hope, and love. But the greatest of these is love.”

We also spend time alone with God out of love. It is central to our nature to love and desire to be loved. We don’t all experience this similarly, but we all need love.

Ephesians 3:17-19, “so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; and that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ which surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled up to all the fullness of God.”

Worldly love is challenging. People are not capable of unconditional love. As hard as we try, we fall short. God’s love is perfect. God’s love for us is unchanging. God’s love for us is steadfast.

Most of all, God loved us to the point that he sent His son to die for us that we may have eternal life.

John 15:13, “Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.”

TO DO’s

Spend some quality time with Christ every day and throughout the day

Matthew 4:4, “Jesus answered, ‘It is written: ‘Man shall not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God.'”

Let those truths permeate your mind and think about them throughout the day

Psalm 1:2, “But whose delight is in the law of the Lord, and who meditates on his law day and night. That person is like a tree planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither— whatever they do prospers.”

Put away, or quit, things that aren’t pleasing to the Lord. Instead, let the Holy Spirit search your life and point out the things that God wants you to face and overcome.

 Colossians 3:8-9, “But now you must also rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips. Do not lie to each other since you have taken off your old self with its practices.”

“Spending time with God through prayer and His Word is a prerequisite for having a great life and fulfilling your purpose.” — Joyce Meyer

Greatness in 2022 and Beyond

Psalm 102:18, “Let this be recorded for a generation to come, so that a people yet to be created may praise the Lord.”

“God is looking for those with whom He can do the impossible — what a pity that we plan only the things that we can do by ourselves.” – A. W. Tozer

As I read down the list of famous people who passed on during 2021, it brought mixed feelings. There is the delight of emotions driven by what was going on in my life when they first came to my attention. There was admiration for what they had accomplished and the dedication to their craft. But there was also the melancholia of a time passed that will never be again. I started to think of people who achieved worldly greatness to see that season come to an end.

1 Peter 4:7-8, “For the culmination of all things is near. So be self-controlled and be sober-minded for the sake of pray. Most important of all, you must sincerely love each other because love wipes away many sins.”

Not All Worldly Achievements Come to an End.

If you have painted a picture, played in a band, penned a book, inspired a song, starred in a movie, people might remember your name, they might recall a memory, or they might even conjure an emotion, but will they remember you? How fleeting is fame? The euphoria of accomplishment fades over time as we create new goals to surpass. In time, skills digress, and we must be content to rest on our laurels.

I believe deep down inside, we all crave greatness. Many of us suppress that urge because we think it is beyond us, but it still lurks in the shadows; it nags at us from dark recesses when we are left alone too long. We look at social media and the news (doomscrolling), envious of what is not ours. The world defines greatness, and we strive to emulate it.

Colossians 2:8, “See to it that no one takes you captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy, which depends on human tradition and the elemental spiritual forces of this world rather than on Christ.”

One of my favorite quotes comes from the book “I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings” by Maya Angelou

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

Greatness is not a Thing; it is an Emotion

This quote has become one of my life passages. As time passes, people will not remember your acts of kindness and goodness, but they will remember someone who made them feel loved. The name, the place, the exact actions are fading flowers and wisps of smoke, but the feelings stay with us the rest of our lives. It is not the accomplishment that survives time; it is the emotion the accomplishment brought on.

A movie, a song, or a picture trigger deeper meaning from the soul. They water the seed that grows from our hearts. Greatness is not a thing; it is an emotion. The awards and the platitudes are the trappings of success and greatness; the true indication of greatness is in changed lives. What seeds have you planted in the hearts of those you have touched?

Luke 16:9-10, “Here’s the lesson: Use your worldly resources to benefit others and make friends. Then, when your earthly possessions are gone, they will welcome you to an eternal home. If you are faithful in little things, you will be faithful in large ones. But if you are dishonest in little things, you won’t be honest with greater responsibilities.”

The Ripple Effect

Psalm 78:6, “That the next generation might know them, the children yet unborn, and arise and tell them to their children.”

There is a ripple effect to everything we do, good or bad. When we are in a bad mood and bark at another, our lousy mood can put them in a bad mood, and they, in turn, speak poorly to someone else. The same is true; if we smile and speak kindly to someone who is not in a good mood, it may raise their spirits, causing them to treat others kindlier.

How many times has someone, uninvolved in your conversation, watched silently to the way you behaved and drew a conclusion about who you are; were they drawn closer to God or pushed away? Who did they tell? Did they decide on how to react toward you in the future based on what they saw in the past?

Greatness does not come from being right, being the best, having authority or position in life; it comes from the moments when you made others feel loved and appreciated.

Great people will tell you that greatness is not an event; it is a lifetime dedication to that for which they have passion. It is consistent over time. It is not the pinnacle of the mountain; it isn’t even the climb. It is the years of dedication and preparation to a passion that consumes them. Live life with purpose.

John 6: 68-69, “Simon Peter answered Him, ‘Lord, to whom would we go? You have the words of eternal life. We have come to believe and to know that You are the Holy One of God.’”

New Year – New Life

Night and day, winter and summer, oceans ebb and tide, the heart contract and relaxes; resolve to live life in cadence with God’s grace.

Hebrews 12: 1-2, “Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.”

You can resolve to Fail

Over the years, we have been indoctrinated to the concept of a new year, new life. We take this time to rediscover our passions and direction. There is nothing magic about January first, but it has become the launch point for personal change over the years. 

A study by Strava of 31.5 million participants showed that most people abandon their New Years’ resolutions by the second Tuesday of January. A companion study by The Journal of Substance Abuse Treatment discovered that 55% of resolutions are abandoned by February first. The term” Failure to Launch” comes to mind. The world is made of great ideas that are never implemented, plans that are written and never executed, and good intentions that never see the light of day. Why?

You can resolve to be Good

Hebrews 11:1, “Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.”

I think it comes down to head versus heart. We can logically and rationally determine a path forward that our heart is not committed to accomplishing. The pain of changing who we are is greater than remaining as we were. It would be great to chase our passions, but fundamentally we are comfortable being who we are.

It is far more comfortable to conform to the world than to rise above it. We understand that it would be pleasing to God if we did rise above, but is the theoretical promise of eternity better than the world’s comfort? I’m not talking about embracing immorality and unethical behaviors; I’m talking about settling down on our haunches and letting the activities of the world waff over us. It is the passive acceptance of a life that does not please God.

Being good is an admirable worldly trait but doesn’t fundamentally buy anything. Goodness should be an attribute of all Christians and an aspiration of all people. Being a Godly person is the goal. Striving to lead a life that pleases God is the ultimate destination; goodness is a mile marker.

You can resolve to be Great

Isaiah 40:31, “but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary; they will walk and not be faint.”

In his book “Good to Great,” Jim Collins states: “Good is the enemy of great. And that is one of the key reasons why we have so little that becomes great.” So few people translate the plans in their heads to the passion of their hearts. They are willing to accept a good life rather than work at a great life.

Eternal greatness always starts and ends with obedience to God’s call. It is being the person God made you be. It is pushing His Kingdom forward and leaving our kingdom behind. Where is your heart?

The bible defines three attributes of a more prosperous life.

Bios: Bios (bios) is the physiology; properly, God’s gift of physical life, animating all creation to live, move and have its being.

Psyche: Psyche (psuché) is the breath of life, the human soul, the soul as the seat of affections and will, the self, a human person, an individual.

Zoe: Zoe (dzo-ay’) is life real and genuine, a life active and vigorous, devoted to God, blessed, even in this world, for those who put their trust in Christ. The part of us that cannot live without God.

It is always good to resolve to improve your physical or mental health. Your cry should be for a life based on Zoe, an active, vigorous life dedicated to God. Resolve to use every resource God has given you to bring Him glory beyond what the world encourages? Can you resolve to use your education, job, position, friends, family, and even your vacation as a testimony to God’s greatness? What does your resolve put first?

Be a child of God.

Ephesians 4:22-24, “You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.”

Christmas Afterglow

Luke 6:38, “Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.”

I have been binging on Christmas movies. I can’t help it. The characters make dumb decisions that could alleviate the problems, but those dumb decisions keep the storyline going until the happy ending. It’s infuriating the level of stupidity written into the scripts. What keeps me coming back is the happy ending.

I can’t get over the happy endings. Everyone wants a love story that ends in a crescendo. God created us to love and be loved. We want that sensation to be overwhelming. We want to be swept away with the emotion of never-ending love. We hold out for that magic moment no matter how callous we have become about life. Even when we don’t believe it exists, we can watch a Christmas movie and fanaticize it might be real. We want our hearts to burst.

I know a couple of friends of mine; they seem to have this idyllic marriage. She is gorgeous; he is handsome, both are successful. He constantly compliments her, and she idolizes him.  I find myself mesmerized by their relationship. Now don’t get me wrong, I know every relationship has its challenges. Not every day is a walk-in wonderland; some days, you try to survive.

My point is that I believe in true love. I believe that God wants us to experience the level of love He has for us. I believe that God knows what it is to love someone so much that it hurts. Yet, God tenaciously powers through the pain to experience the love. There is no other explanation for what He has done for us.

John 15:13, “Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.”

The feeling of love can become an opiate, an addiction, and an obsession. We can elevate the desire to love and be loved to the point that it loses its original intention and becomes a distraction. However, love can also be the driving force of our lives. It can be the catalyst for change and growth.

1 Corinthians 13:13, “The three most important things to have are: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of them is love.”

The essence of most Christmas movies is a great lie. This fundamental element in Christmas movies is someone deceiving someone else and gets caught. It all starts as an innocent deception; as the story grows, so does the deception. In the end, it is forgiveness that creates a happy ending. Although meant for commercial consumption, Christmas movies mimic the true Christmas story. First, we deceive ourselves into believing it is an innocent lie. As our lives progress, the lie grows. It is God’s forgiveness that creates a happy ending.

We deceived our King. We became so comfortable in our deception that we allowed it to grow and grow. It is only the benevolence of our King that we receive a happy ending. It’s not a movies script; it is real life. We receive eternal life through the charity of the King of Kings.

Romans 3:23, “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.”

This thought leads me to think about true greatness. We all seek greatness in our lives. We all want to leave a legacy that stands the test of time. We want to mean something, to be something. For me, it is making an eternal difference in a single life. If I could be a person with such great love for humanity that I could humble myself to serve another to the extent that they see God in me, I would be successful. I will have achieved greatness.

Ephesians 3:20, “Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us.”

Spiritual greatness starts and ends with loving our fellow man. The yearning we have inside to be something greater than we are can only be relieved by learning to love those that do not love us. Loving those that do love us is easy. Turning the other cheek is complicated but still does not require love. Humbling oneself and truly submitting ourselves for the benefit of someone less deserving is the essence of love.

Matthew 5:46-48, “It is easy to love those who love you—even a tax collector can love those who love him. And it is easy to greet your friends—even outsiders do that! But you are called to something higher: “Be perfect, as your Father in heaven is perfect.”

Let us all bask in the afterglow of Christmas. Let us all understand that we live a life of deception, both big and small. But, let us also take heart that the King of Kings, in His unconditional love, has already written our happy ending.

2 Corinthians 9:8, “And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that having all sufficiency in all things at all times, you may abound in every good work.”

Merry Christmas

Luke 2:11, “For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Savior, which is Christ the Lord.”

Christmas is always a special time. We get to celebrate the birth of our savior. Technically it is not His birthday but the celebration of His birth. It is the day that changed history. It is also an incredible event where the creator of the universe cared so much for His creation that He sent His only son, in human form, as a sacrifice for our sin. When Jesus came as a newborn baby, with all of its frailties, He knew His destiny. Jesus knew that He was a living sacrifice. He knew his future was to die for us.

1 John 4:19, “We love because he first loved us.”

Which brings me to today’s question; Do you know Christ, or do you just know about Christ?

Howard G. Hendricks describes it this way; “A belief is something you will argue about. A conviction is something you will die for. “

Do you stand in awe of things you do not understand, or do you yearn for His presence in your life? Is the extent of your faith marveling at the creation, or is it an overwhelming need for closeness to the God that loves you unconditionally? Do other people see God’s presence in your life, or do they just see positive worldly traits? Is the fullness of God’s presence in your daily walk, or are you just mimicking characteristics that the world sees as good?

I sometimes question if I am trying to do what is right to receive God’s blessings and grace, or does He truly indwell within me? This worldly analogy comes to mind; do I complete the assignments at work to please my boss in hopes of a promotion or a pay raise, or is it because I have a passion for my chosen profession. Would I do it if there was no reward?

John 4:48, “Unless you people see signs and wonders,” Jesus told him, “You will never believe.”

Even the people of Christ’s time, people who were steeped in the story of the coming Messiah, marveled at what He could do, not who He was. They wanted tangible worldly proof over divine intervention. Can you imagine walking with Christ, seeing all He had done, experiencing His compassion and grace, and still wanting evidence of who He said He was? It is easy to see why we might mimic His behavior without truly internalizing His grace. It is easy to see why we might become fans but not understand how to become followers.

 Job 5:8-9, “But if I were you, I would appeal to God; I would lay my cause before him. He performs wonders that cannot be fathomed, miracles that cannot be counted.”

This Christmas season, we will worship the Messiah that wiped away the sins of the world. We will celebrate the birthday of the baby, who walked this earth to show His compassion for what we experience, He would counsel us with His wisdom, and He would lay down His life that we might live. He gives us the greatest reason to have hope.

Let us, in turn, strive to integrate His holiness into our being. This coming year, let us try not just to mimic the goodness of the world but let Christ live through us. To truly let Christ live through us requires humility and patience. It requires, just as Christ lived, a servant’s heart. It requires us to love others truly; not just turn the other cheek. It requires us to help and support others who would harm us.

Luke 11:13, “If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will the heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!”

The Holy Spirit living within us is the most fantastic Christmas present Christ is willing to give you, just ask, and it is yours.

Psalm 37:4, “Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.”

Where Does Christmas Find You?

Ephesians 2:7, “Now God has us where he wants us, with all the time in this world and the next to shower grace and kindness upon us in Christ Jesus.”

The place you are right now, God circled on the map for you. – Hafiz (Persian Poet)

Where does Christmas find you? Are you with family and friends or stuck on the road somewhere? Is the day going as planned, full of joy, love and hope, or has it gone off track, frustrating and chaotic? Where will you be next week, next month, or next year? Are you where you planned to be, or has life taken a detour?

Ephesians 1:3-10, “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in Christ with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places, even as he chose us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and blameless before him. In love he predestined us for adoption as sons through Jesus Christ, according to the purpose of his will, to the praise of his glorious grace, with which he has blessed us in the Beloved.”

There is no perfect job, perfect relationship, or perfect life; there are only perfect moments. So don’t get lost looking for what will never be and miss what is.

Paul found himself marooned on Malta, Ester woke up serving a pagan King, Jonah was cast overboard in the middle of a storm, and Joseph was abandoned by his siblings. The shepherds found themselves kneeling in a stable at the foot of the Son of God. We all have a destiny that is not our own. It is a path set before us by the Lord of Lords, King of Kings. There will be days of clarity and joy; and there will be days of darkness and confusion. They are all written in the Book of Life by our creator; we only get to write the subplots.

Romans 8:29, “For those whom he foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son, in order that he might be the firstborn among many brothers.”

God created us for the sole purpose of worshiping Himself. Therefore, everything we do is a form of worship. Every action is praise, rejection, or indifference, but worship all the same. We either acknowledge God’s presence in our daily walk, intentionally rebel against His authority, or treat Him with complete indifference.

1 Corinthians 3:16, “Do you not know that you are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in you?”

Let me tell you about a man who failed, but still, his story lives on. Dietrich Bonhoeffer was a pastor, theologian, and founding member of the Confessing Church. For those that do not know, the Confessing Church was an anti-fascist organization that opposed Hitler’s treatment of the Jews. It was said of him after his return from studying in America to Germany; “At this time he seems to have undergone something of a personal conversion from being a theologian primarily attracted to the intellectual side of Christianity to being a dedicated man of faith, resolved to carry out the teaching of Christ as he found it revealed in the Gospels.”

Dietrich was eventually hung for his involvement in the failed plot to assassinate Hitler on July 20, 1944. His life was much like many people’s lives with side trips and rabbit trails. But, in the end, his failure lived on as a testimony of Christian dedication against a cause that was so egregious it now lives in infamy. He was where God had circled on the map for him to be, what some might see as failure God glorifies.

Jonah’s voyage in the belly of a whale, Joseph’s sale into slavery, Ester’s banishment to Babylonia, Moses’ fall from Royalty to estranged Shepard are examples of God’s people being exactly where He wanted them when He wanted them to be there.

Matthew 12:30, “Whoever is not with me is against me, and whoever does not gather with me scatters.”

Will you use this moment to praise and worship the God of your creation, or will this moment pass unnoticed? Despite where you find yourselves will you acknowledge that it is through God’s providence that you exist at all. Will your act of worship be seen as praise by those around you, or will you be silent?

Christmas Day we celebrate an event that changed the history of man. No other event in the history of the planet earth has had the impact equal to the birth of Christ. This day celebrates a pivotal moment for humanity. The way all people, believers and non-believers, view morality and ethics was forever changed. That single event demonstrated that God did love all of us to the extent that He would bring His son to earth for the sole purpose of sacrificing Him for our sins. That alone should give you reason to pause.

Every day is Christmas. Every day is a celebration of the birth of Christ. Every day brings new opportunities to demonstrate the goodness of Christ regardless of our circumstances. Do we seize the day; do we seize the moment?

1 Peter 3:15, “But in your hearts honor Christ the Lord as holy, always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and respect.”

Waiting on Christmas

Psalm 145:5-7, “I will meditate on the glorious splendor of Your majesty, and on Your wondrous works. Men shall speak of the might of Your awesome acts, and I will declare Your greatness. They shall utter the memory of Your great goodness, and shall sing of Your righteousness.”

When we were children, it never seemed like Christmas would ever come. I remember trying to sleep the night before, then running into my parent’s room at the crack of dawn to wake them so that we could all go downstairs to see what Santa had brought. Christmas was a magical time when dreams came true. There was an expectation in the air that come Christmas day; I would experience great joy, not just for the gifts, but the general way everyone treated each other; Christmas Day transformed life.

Can you imagine what the Israelites of Isiah’s time must have felt? Isiah, in chapter 11, portrays the most encouraging image of the character of Christ. It gives this pastoral view of worldly peace and tranquility. It talks of a savior that will rule with justice for the poor. It describes enemies living in peace. This gift that God had planned for humanity was not just a Chatty Cathy or GI Joe; it was a living testimony of God’s love and kindness toward a people that had turned their backs on Him. It was a savior that would save the world from itself.

James 1:17, “Every good thing given and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shifting shadow.”

Christmas Eve was going to be over 730 years away. Seven hundred and thirty years of struggles and lost dreams. Seven hundred and thirty years of wondering if the prophet Isiah spoke the truth. Did Isiah have the ear of God; was there a savior, and would this cup ever be taken from us? What the Israelites looked for was far more than a simple gift, a bobble, or a trinket; it was life itself. It was confirmation that they were God’s children.

Galatians 4:4, “But when the fullness of the time came, God sent forth His Son, born of a woman, born under the Law.”

When Christ did come, it wasn’t presents under the tree at sunrise. There was no Christmas Day parade. It was not celebrated. The Israelites waited for so long; many forgot what they were waiting for. Even after Jesus started His ministry, many denied His deity, miracles, and message. 

1 Peter 5:6, “Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you at the proper time.”

The simple message I have going into Christmas is this; Wait on Christ. Christ will do all that He says He will do. He will answer every prayer. The Israelites waited over seven hundred years for their savior, and most of them missed it when He showed up. Don’t get so entrenched in your thinking that you miss what God is doing every day in your life. What He has in store for you is beyond your ability to describe. His love for you, and therefore His blessing for you, are immeasurable. Whatever you want is nothing more than window dressing to the life He has planned for you.

2 Peter 3:8, “But do not let this one fact escape your notice, beloved, that with the Lord one day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years like one day.”

This Christmas, remember all that God has done in your life as a witness to what He will do. We may not get what we want when we want it, but that is to His glory that He may be known to you. Therefore, we should wait joyfully, knowing that His timing is always perfect.

Numbers 23:19, “God is not a man, that He should lie, nor a son of man, that He should repent; Has He said, and will He not do it? Or has He spoken, and will He not make it good?