Happiness Archives - Tomme Stevenson

June 23, 2026June 4, 2026

Buried but Not Forgotten

Buried Pain Buried but not forgotten, I was asked today to join a panel to discuss one of the most painful events of my life. The purpose is noble: to help others understand pain, survival, and the hidden struggles people carry. We go through these stages to refine ourselves and become more human in our interactions with others.

We live in a broken world where pain is an inevitable part of our lives. Because we only know our own experiences, it is hard to imagine others going through the same thing. Our pain is unique to us.

John 16:33, “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world, you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”

Buried

What you have gone through prepares you to help others. It makes you relatable. It also gives you the experience to know that you can survive and thrive in a world that is doing its best to crush you. That is an important message to pass on.

But pain is pain. Much of it I have buried deep in the ground. I have even removed the headstone so I do not go back to revisit it. It is part of me. It influences decisions in subtle, subconscious ways. I don’t have to make friends with it. I need to understand it and find a way forward without letting it dictate my life. And I have.

Hebrews 13:5, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.”

Now I have been asked to resurrect it. I have been asked to go deep into the woods and find the indentation in the ground marking its resting place. I must search for it. Remember where and why I buried it. Then I have to revive it, bring it back to life in front of others.

Resurrected

I don’t know how. I’ve gone over it and over it in my mind. How do I talk about something so personal without being condescending or glib? How do I keep from masking the hurt and shame while staying honest? No one, not even my closest and dearest friend, knows the whole story. Mostly to protect the other party, partly to protect myself.

I’m afraid I have no advice today except this. That day, the one that changed my life forever, was not a hard decision. It came naturally.

God said, “Do this,” and I did.

I think it saved a life.

But it cost me everything.

To the outside world, it was a failure on a grand scale. But to me, there was no plan “B”. I have never regretted it, and given the chance, I would do it again.

Isaiah 41:10, “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”

Living

But there is a scar that runs deep. Every once in a while, I gently rub my hand over it to remind myself I am still alive. I have to do that because I am human, and until that changes, I will feel pain from time to time.

I have a God who has never abandoned me, even in the moments when I could not understand the cost. In my darkest hour, He is there. There is nothing I will ever go through that is a surprise to Him. And, if I allow, He will use it for my good.

2 Corinthians 12:9, “But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore, I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.”

June 9, 2026May 7, 2026

Measuring Pupose

Measuring Purpose. A tree does not hear the sound of its own growth. That was a very clear message to me. I am analytical to a fault. Plan your work, work your plan, should be on my family crest. I think what I experience is something many people feel: a deep need to know if we are living our intended purpose.

Ephesians 2:10, “For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.”

The deeper challenge for us may not be determining whether our lives have meaning. Rather, it may be coming to understand that we may need to accept that meaningful lives often feel unfinished, uncertain, and insufficient while they are lived. Most of what we do, including mentoring, teaching, evangelizing, helping the underserved, communicating, encouraging, and character development, is a slow-burning influence system. We are unlikely to see most of our impact directly.

Influence usually travels farther than emotion can track.

Dr. William Leslie

Dr. William Leslie was a medical missionary who went to the Congo in 1912. He served in a remote jungle region among the Yansi people for about 17 years. On the surface, the mission was deeply discouraging: little visible response, isolation, harsh conditions, and seemingly minimal lasting impact.

Eventually, discouraged and physically worn down, he returned to the United States, believing his efforts had largely failed. He died years later, unaware of whether his work had produced anything of substance.

But decades later — in 2010 — missionaries and researchers traveled to the same remote region expecting almost no Christian influence to remain. Instead, they found multiple thriving churches, a large network of believers, villages with established worship communities, and even a large stone church deep in the jungle.

The local communities still trace much of the original gospel influence to Leslie’s early work and to the seeds sown during those difficult years.

Living Our Purpose

Romans 8:28, “And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.”

God does not waste effort. He does not leave obedience unrewarded. God lives outside of time. He knows the task He has set before you and the results that will come from that obedience. The results may lie over the horizon. We are time-constrained beings who measure change over time, but God does not. The ripple effect of a single conversation may take generations to bear meaningful fruit. Yet that conversation needs to happen today to bear fruit somewhere in the future.

“God never said the journey would be easy, but He did say the arrival would be worthwhile.” – Max Lucado.

Be Encouraged

Do not stop doing what God has put in your heart. God smiles at every effort, gesture, and meaningful moment. He alone knows why you are passionate. He created that passion in you. I have learned to judge my impact not by the number of saved souls or changed lives, but by the effort I put in. I must be comfortable doing what God wants of me, even when I do not always know why.

Proverbs 19:21 “Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails.”

So often, I want to stop because I can’t see the impact. I don’t see the reason to keep going. But I am always reminded that this isn’t my plan; it’s God’s. My job is simple: obedience. God rewards me with a kind word or an unexpected compliment, just enough to keep me going.

That simple gesture tells me I am His. That is enough.

Galatians 6:9, “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”

May 12, 2026May 1, 2026

Overworked and Underpaid

Work Hard “We are overworked and underpaid.” Every generation says it. My grandfather said it, my father said it, I’ve said it, and now my daughter says it too.

The language changes, the economy shifts, and jobs look different—but the feeling remains the same. Life often feels like a constant effort just to keep up. There is always more to do, more expected, and rarely enough reward to match the effort.

So, what do we do with that feeling?

You Are Exactly Where God Wants You

This is the part most people resist. If we truly believe in God’s sovereignty, we must also believe this: You are where God wants you and when God wants you there.

God does not waste time, nor does He waste effort, and He certainly does not misplace people.

That means even in seasons when you feel overlooked, underpaid, or taken advantage of—God is not absent. He is intentional.

That doesn’t mean every employer is fair. Scripture doesn’t pretend they are. In fact, Jesus directly addresses this tension in the Parable of the Workers in the Vineyard (Matthew 20:1–16), where workers receive what appears to be unequal pay. The lesson isn’t about fairness—it’s about trust in the Master. Each worker agreed to the compensation when the job was offered. It seemed fair then and met a need. But when compared with others, it later seemed unfair. The lesson is to accept your decisions and not complain when others make a better one.

To complain about being in the middle of God’s plan is, at its core, to question the plan itself.

That’s a hard truth—but it’s also a freeing one.

Work Is Worship

We often think of worship as something we do in a church setting. But Scripture paints a much broader picture. Work is worship.

Colossians 3:23, “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters.”

If that is true, then your job is no longer just a job. Your boss is no longer your ultimate authority, and effort is no longer tied to your paycheck.

You are working for God. That changes everything.

1 Corinthians 10:31, “So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.”

And Proverbs reinforces it:

Proverbs 14:23, “All hard work brings a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty.”

The opportunity to work—to build, to contribute, to grow—is not a burden. It is a gift. The question is not whether the work is fair. It is whether you are faithful in it.

Do the Work Without Complaining

This is where it becomes difficult.

Philippians 2:14–15, “Do everything without grumbling or arguing… so that you may become blameless and pure.”

Why?

How you work is a testimony. Anyone can work hard when they feel valued. Few people can work faithfully when they feel overlooked. That difference is what sets you apart—not just professionally, but spiritually.

You are not just an employee; you are an ambassador.

The Question Is Not “Why?” but “What?”

When life feels unfair, our instinct is to ask: “Why is this happening to me?” But Scripture quietly redirects that question. A better question is: “What am I meant to learn here?”

If God has placed you in this moment, then there is something in it for you—something to refine you, strengthen you, or prepare you.

Colossians 4:5, “Be wise in the way you act… make the most of every opportunity.”

And in the Parable of the Talents (Matthew 25:14–30), the servants are not judged by what they were given—but by what they did with it. Your current situation may not be ideal. But it is still an opportunity.

A Hard but Necessary Question

There is also a moment for honest reflection. How did you get here? Did you follow God’s direction—or your own desire? Or did you step into this role out of calling—or convenience?

If the situation is the result of your own choices, then the response is not frustration—it is correction.

Proverbs 12:11, “Those who work their land will have abundant food, but those who chase fantasies have no sense.”

God does not waste time—but we sometimes do. The good news is this: even when we make missteps, God can still use the situation to shape us.

The Perspective That Changes Everything

Being overworked and underpaid may not be a punishment. It may be preparation. Preparation for discipline, responsibility, and something greater that requires more than you currently have.

If you cannot be faithful in a difficult season, you will not be ready for a better one. So instead of asking: “Why is this happening to me?”

Ask: “God, what are You teaching me here—and how do I use it?”

Because the same situation that frustrates one person can build another.

April 28, 2026April 13, 2026

The Legacy of Hanson Gregory

Heaven by C.S. Lewis Few people know the name Hanson Gregory. Hanson Gregory (1832–1921) was an American sailor credited with inventing the ring-shaped doughnut by adding a hole to its center.

We eat donuts at a surprising rate, but almost no one knows who first thought of the idea. This illustrates the core concept of the eternal echo. One person’s effort influences millions, maybe billions, of people, yet hardly anyone knows who he is.

Legacy Effort

Gregory is not unique. History is full of people like him. Konrad Zuse built the first programmable computer. Hedy Lamarr helped enable modern wireless communication. Granville Woods, Willem Kolff, Garrett Morgan, and Mary Anderson created systems we depend on daily—from railways to medicine to traffic safety.

There is an endless parade of people who made significant contributions to our current happiness, yet few people remember them. These are people who created things that we take for granted, but whose names are mostly unknown to us.

Matthew 7:21, “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven.”

What do these people have in common? They develop infrastructure ideas, not just products. Their work often becomes invisible once adopted, and their impact is multiplicative (echo effect)—one idea enabling thousands of others.

What is Our Infrastructure Idea?

Psalm 78:4, “We will not hide them from their children, but tell to the coming generation the glorious deeds of the Lord, and his might, and the wonders that he has done.”

Our goal in life isn’t to make our name immortal, but to make our impact last. Our God-given purpose isn’t to create one unforgettable moment, but to help others create lasting change across generations. Our foundation is Christ. Our eternal influence is not from an invention or discovery, but from the ongoing impact of a concept that has changed the very fabric of the world.

Before Christ’s death on the cross, we had to continually offer sacrifices to atone for our sins—a never-ending process that didn’t guarantee our place in eternity. Christ fulfilled what repeated sacrifices could never complete, offering a final and sufficient path to reconciliation with God. Our Hanson Gregory moment isn’t as common as the donut; it’s a promise of everlasting peace.

Psalm 145:4, “One generation shall commend your works to another, and shall declare your mighty acts.”

Our Call to Action

Every day, we meet people in need of hope and salvation. Although our name might not echo through eternity, our actions will. We can choose to take on the challenge of reaching out to the lost or leave it to someone else, passing up the chance to make an impact. It’s our choice. We live with the consequences of our decisions. God’s will cannot be diverted or halted; it will go forward through other means if we refuse to participate. Ultimately, it is we who bear the burden.

We may speak about a place where there are no tears, no death, no fear, no night, but those are just the benefits of heaven. The beauty of heaven is seeing God. – Max Lucado

1 Peter 1:4, “To an inheritance that is imperishable, undefiled, and unfading, kept in heaven for you.”

April 14, 2026March 13, 2026

At Some Point, We all Need a Miracle.

At some point, everyone needs a Miracle. At some point, we all need a miracle. That isn’t a sign of weakness; it’s part of being human. Sometimes life pushes us so hard that we finally see what has always been true: we were never meant to carry everything alone.

“One genuine miracle equals a thousand sermons.” — Angus Buchan

Jeremiah 29:11, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

We all experience times of great need. Sometimes it’s our work or business that is in danger. Maybe it’s a loved one’s life that feels fragile and uncertain. Or it’s exhaustion, fear, or grief that we can’t even put into words. In those moments, we’re not asking for luxury or comfort—we’re asking to survive. We’re asking for hope. We’re asking God to step in where we cannot.

Most of us desire a “parting-the-Red-Sea” miracle: something clear, instant, and overwhelming. A solution that erases doubt, pain, and waiting all at once. And yes, those miracles do happen. But more often, God’s miracles occur quietly, gently, and cooperatively. They involve our obedience, our action, and our participation, even when we don’t realize it at the time.

Answered prayer often follows a pattern that is less dramatic but more personal. Not because God is distant, but because He is deeply involved in shaping us, not just rescuing us.

Here are six truths that appear again and again in Scripture:

First, God knew the need before we ever spoke it.

Psalm 139:4, “Even before a word is on my tongue, you know it completely.”

Your fear, exhaustion, and silent prayers—He already sees them. Delay doesn’t mean absence. Silence isn’t indifference. God’s timing isn’t about neglect; it’s about purpose. He’s never hurried, confused, or surprised.

Second, God could fix everything instantly without involving us.

He created the universe with just a word. God doesn’t need our help, but He desires our hearts. He wants a relationship—He wants us to walk with Him, not just watch Him.

Genesis 22:18 states blessing flows “because you have obeyed me.” Obedience isn’t a payment; it’s participation. God invites us into His work not because He is limited, but because love seeks closeness.

Third, God asks us to do what we can. Obedience is movement.

You can’t steer a ship that never leaves the dock. Obedience is often a small, quiet act when clarity is missing. God nudges rather than shouts. He asks for steps, not certainty.

Peter had to step out of the boat.
The servants had to fill the jars with water.
The widow had to gather containers.
The paralyzed man had to be carried by friends who believed.

None of these actions was glamorous; they were just faithful.

Four, God works with what we already possess.

This is often the first miracle we overlook: we are not empty.
The widow had oil.
The crowd had bread and fish.
The paralyzed man had friends.
The wedding had water jars.

We often focus on what we lack and overlook what God has already given us. Our resources may seem small, but they are never insignificant when placed in God’s hands.

Fifth, God does what we cannot do.

This is where grace comes in. Water becomes wine.
Oil multiplies.
Bread expands.
Broken bodies are healed. Fear turns into courage.

Our obedience forms the foundation. God brings the transformation. The miracle is not our work—it is His. But He graciously allows our small acts to play a part in something much greater.

Sixth, the harsh truth: it often takes longer, hurts more, and makes less sense than we wish.

This is the part we find most difficult. We see obedience as a transaction: “If I do what God wants, He will give me what I want.”

But love is not a contract. God sees farther than we do. He understands consequences we cannot imagine. What feels slow to us often provides protection. Pain might be refining. What feels confusing could be shaping a future we cannot yet see.

And yet, His promise remains steadfast:

Jeremiah 29:11, “Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

Not comfort at all costs. Not speed at any cost. Instead, hope. Healing. Purpose. Growth.

These miracles show what compassionate faith really means:

1. Walking on Water – Matthew 14:22–33
2. Water to Wine – John 2:1–11
3. The Widow and the Oil – 2 Kings 4:1–7
4. Feeding the Five Thousand – Matthew 14:13–21
5. The Paralyzed Man – Luke 5:17–26

Each one demonstrates effort, trust, and divine intervention working together. Each one shows God meeting people where they truly are, not where they want to be.

Miracles don’t show perfection; they reveal need.
And needing God isn’t a sign of failure; it’s the start of grace.

April 7, 2026March 13, 2026

Part Three: Finishing Faithfully

Finishing Well In my three-quarters of a century, I have noticed that a life that ends well rarely happens by chance. It results from thousands of small decisions made over many years.

Knowing who you are is crucial. Acting on opportunities as they come is just as vital. But there is one more trait that distinguishes people who start strong from those who finish strong.

They endure.

The Christian life was never intended to be a short sprint. It’s a long journey that demands perseverance.

Many people start with enthusiasm. They are excited about new opportunities, new ministries, and new ideas. But over time, discouragement, fatigue, and disappointment gradually diminish that initial excitement.

The challenge isn’t in starting; it’s in persistence.

The Long Road of Faithfulness

Scripture repeatedly reminds us that endurance is part of God’s design for spiritual maturity.

James wrote:

James 1:12, “Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him.”

The writer of Hebrews encouraged believers with these words:

Hebrews 12:1, “Let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us.”

Notice that the metaphor is not a sprint but a marathon. Distance runners succeed not through short bursts of energy but through consistent persistence.

Faithfulness works the same way.

There will be times when progress seems slow. Moments will come when your efforts go unnoticed. Some of the work God asks us to do may never receive visible recognition.

But God has never measured faithfulness by applause: He measures it by endurance.

Discouragement Along the Way

One of the greatest challenges in perseverance is discouragement.

We might start a task believing it will produce quick results. When nothing happens, doubt starts to creep in. We question whether our efforts are worthwhile.

Elijah went through this after a major spiritual victory on Mount Carmel. After confronting the prophets of Baal and seeing God’s power firsthand, he soon felt discouraged and drained in the wilderness. Even God’s most faithful servants have moments when their strength runs out.

God did not rebuke Elijah for his discouragement. Instead, He restored him and sent him on his way again.

This pattern is seen throughout Scripture. Faithful individuals often go through times of exhaustion.

What distinguishes those who finish strong is not the lack of discouragement but their willingness to keep going despite it.

Quiet Faithfulness

Some of the most meaningful work in God’s kingdom happens quietly. A parent raising children with integrity. A mentor investing in younger believers. A friend who continues to care for someone who is struggling.

These actions seldom draw attention, but they influence lives in ways that resonate far beyond what we can observe.

Paul reminded the Galatians of this truth:

Galatians 6:9, “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”

The harvest often comes later than we expect. But it comes.

The Finish Line

At the end of his life, the apostle Paul reflected on his journey with remarkable clarity:

2 Timothy 4:7, “I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith.”

Paul did not judge his life based on comfort or recognition. Instead, he measured it by faithfulness to the calling God had given him.

That is the true measure of a life well-lived.

Not wealth, titles, or public recognition, but faithfulness.

A clear identity in Christ.

The courage to seize opportunities when God opens doors. And the perseverance to continue walking that path, year after year. Lives built on those three marks rarely make headlines.

But in eternity, they will be remembered.

And when the race is finished, the faithful servant hears the words that matter most:

“Well done, good and faithful servant.”

March 24, 2026March 13, 2026

A Life Well-Lived

A Life Well Lived In my three-quarters of a century, I have noticed three signs of a life well-lived. The first is a strong sense of identity, the second is the resolve to keep moving forward even when the road ahead is unclear, and the third is finishing faithfully. I will cover the three in a three part post. This is part one.

Before we talk about these two qualities, however, we need to clarify what we mean by success.

SUCCESS

Francis Chan once wrote:

“Our greatest fear should not be of failure but of succeeding at things in life that don’t really matter.” — Francis Chan, Crazy Love

That statement immediately exposes the real problem. Success is not only about achieving goals; it is about achieving the right goals.

The dictionary defines success as “the achieving of the results wanted or hoped for.” But that definition raises an important question: wanted by whom, and hoped for according to what standard?

Our culture judges success by visible things — titles, income, recognition, and influence. These markers are simple to count and compare. But they are not reliable signs of a life well lived. Many people achieve them and still feel an uneasy restlessness. Applause quickly fades when it is disconnected from purpose.

True success is more subtle and lasting. It arises from alignment — the confidence that your life is heading in the direction God intended when He created you.

Success is not about becoming impressive; it is about becoming faithful.

Throughout Scripture, God never rewards people for having the most. He rewards them for being faithful with what was entrusted to them. That distinction changes how we evaluate our lives.

Identity and Purpose

Jim Collins famously wrote:

“Good is the enemy of great.” — Jim Collins, Good to Great

In business, greatness often comes from disciplined focus. In life, greatness comes from disciplined alignment with the One who created you.

A person who lives well eventually understands a simple truth: before you discover what you are called to do, you must understand who you were created to be.

The Bible consistently reminds us that humans are not accidents. We are intentionally created by God, formed for purposes beyond our personal ambitions.

Psalm 139:14,“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”

Isaiah describes the relationship this way:

Isaiah 64:8, “Yet you, Lord, are our Father. We are the clay, you are the potter; we are all the work of your hand.”

Paul reinforces the same idea in Ephesians:

Ephesians 2:10, “For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.”

Even the prophet Jeremiah was reminded that God’s purposes precede our awareness of them:

Jeremiah 1:5, “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart.”

Uniqueness

No two people are created the same, and no two lives are meant to follow the same path. When we measure ourselves against others to determine who we should become, we abandon the uniqueness of God’s design. You cannot become someone else, and they cannot become you.

Discovering God’s purpose for your life rarely happens in a dramatic moment. More often, it unfolds gradually through obedience in small things. As faithfulness accumulates, clarity grows.

When purpose and identity align with God’s design, something shifts. Life becomes focused. Energy previously used for comparison or doubt is now directed toward faithful action.

Jesus illustrated this in the parable of the talents. The servants were given different amounts, but the reward was not based on how much they received. The servant with two talents received the same praise as the servant with five. The difference was not the size of their resources but how faithfully they managed what they had.

The Lesson is Simple and Profound.

God does not judge our lives by comparing them with others. Instead, He evaluates them based on our faithfulness to what He has entrusted to us.

Until your life begins to align with God’s purpose, you may achieve many things that the world considers success. However, those accomplishments will never fully satisfy you. Titles, possessions, and recognition can’t replace the quiet confidence that comes from knowing you are living the life you were meant to live.

True success isn’t about being admired.

It is found in hearing the words every faithful servant longs to hear.

“Well done, good and faithful servant.”

March 17, 2026March 13, 2026

Time is a Thief

,My daughter, an incredible human being who has had an indelible impact on thousands, mentioned the other day that time is a thief. She was talking about my granddaughter’s upcoming high school graduation. She was reflecting on how quickly time had passed from her birth to her graduation. With that brief statement, ‘time is a thief,’ she captured something essential about the human condition.

“The best use of life is love, the best expression of love is time. The best time to love is now. ” – Rick Warren

Time acts like a thief. When those meaningful memories arrive—the ones that truly matter—time keeps moving forward. It takes those moments away and replaces them with new ones that rarely feel as significant. The rhythm doesn’t pause to recognize the importance of the moment; to it, they are all the same.

No moment has no soul or heart. It treats each moment with equal indifference, never looking back to reflect or add context to the present. Moments simply moves forward relentlessly.

James 4:14, “What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes.”

Why Time?

What is the reason for the existence of time? Aristotle states that time is the measure of change. Einstein’s theory of relativity claims that time allows events to occur in sequence. In physics, the focus is on the arrow of time, with entropy providing its direction. Without this measurement, the universe could not begin, end, or change. Time is what makes history possible.

We exist within an unending rhythm of time. This moment, right now, will never happen again. Anything happening now cannot be duplicated because it will never exist again. Why do we assume that Heaven is beyond time? Christ remains the same yesterday, today, and forever. There is no beginning, no end, and no change. In heaven, moments don’t matter. But we are not there yet, so time still matters to us.

Hebrews 13:8, “Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever.”

The Call

Psalm 90:10,12, “Our days may come to seventy years, or eighty, if our strength endures… yet the best of them are but trouble and sorrow, for they quickly pass, and we fly away…Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.”

We often take time for granted. We don’t fully grasp the moment until it becomes history, and then we cherish it. By the time we realize its worth, it’s already gone. We have to recreate the experience. When we grow old, those precious moments are all we have left. We remember them, replaying them over and over in our minds. We share them with others who have experienced the same thing.

Shared experiences validate our existence. When others remember the same moment we do, it reassures us that our lives truly intersected in time.

How to Capture Each Moment

Live each moment as if it were your last. Every moment is unique and should be treasured. The clock keeps ticking, and time keeps moving forward. We will never relive this moment in our lifetime. So, recognize its significance. Every breath, heartbeat, act, thought, and word is unique in time.

Take each moment to build meaningful relationships. Be present when engaging with others. Recognize that these moments can’t be repeated. Regret is like the echo of a bell that has already rung. Once the sound leaves the bell, it cannot be called back.

The wise use of time is not the building of castles that will someday be dismantled. It is the planting of seeds whose shade we may never sit under.

March 3, 2026February 18, 2026

When Hope and Depression Share the Same Heart

depression and faith When hope and depression share the same heart, Christ becomes essential. While I was in Kyrgyzstan, I had a conversation that stayed with me. A woman shared that her mother — a trained psychologist — is battling depression. What makes her situation more complicated is not just the illness itself but also the theology surrounding it. Some in their Christian community believe that a Christian should not experience depression. The reasoning seems straightforward:

Christ is our hope. If hope exists, depression should not be present. It sounds faithful, but it is not entirely biblical.

“I find myself frequently depressed—perhaps more so than any other person here. And I find no better cure for that depression than to trust in the Lord with all my heart and seek to realize afresh the power of the peace-speaking blood of Jesus.” – Charles Spurgeon

Speaking Thoughtfully About Depression

Before referencing Scripture, we need to define terms precisely.

There is a difference between everyday sadness and clinical depression. Clinical depression involves a persistent low mood, loss of interest, changes in sleep or appetite, difficulty concentrating, and physical exhaustion that can last for weeks or longer. It is widely recognized in medicine and psychology as a real health condition that impacts both emotional and physical well-being.

This isn’t about reducing the soul to chemistry; it’s about recognizing that we are embodied beings. Spiritual faith doesn’t dismiss physical processes. The Bible was written in a pre-modern medical context, yet it often speaks openly about deep emotional pain.

Scripture Does Not Hide Despair

The book of Lamentations clearly shows that sorrow has a place in faith. The author describes suffering, bitterness, and a soul that is “downcast” (Lamentations 3:20). These words remain in Scripture — they are not removed.

Yet in the same chapter, we read:

Lamentations 3:21, “Yet this I call to mind and therefore I have hope…”

Notice what happens. The despair is real. It is voiced. It is not denied. Hope emerges not by pretending sorrow doesn’t exist, but by remembering who God is in the midst of it.

Hope and lament coexist.

Elijah and the Collapse After Victory

In 1 Kings 19, Elijah has a major spiritual victory when fire comes down from heaven. But soon after, he flees into the wilderness and prays for death.

“I have had enough, Lord… Take my life.”

God does not accuse him of weak faith. He gives him sleep, provides food, and restores his strength before speaking to him softly.

Scripture demonstrates that there is no conflict between spiritual devotion and emotional exhaustion. A prophet can love God deeply and still go through despair.

The Psalms and Honest Faith

Almost one-third of the Psalms are laments.

“How long, O Lord?”
“My tears have been my food day and night.”
“Darkness is my closest friend.” (Psalm 88)

Psalm 88 ends without resolution. There is no triumphant closing line. Yet, it remains Scripture.

The Bible does not sanitize suffering. It elevates it.

Even Jesus said in Gethsemane, “My soul is overwhelmed with sorrow to the point of death” (Matthew 26:38). Sorrow is not evidence of spiritual failure.

The Danger of Simplistic Theology

Our darkness does not threaten Christ. He encounters us in it — and sometimes the most faithful thing a believer can do is cling to Him while the night still lingers.

When we tell a suffering believer that their depression reflects a lack of faith, we risk increasing their shame, which is already substantial. We also risk alienating them from the community that is intended to share their burdens. Furthermore, we risk misrepresenting Scripture.

Christian hope isn’t emotional immunity; it’s an anchor (Hebrews 6:19). Anchors aren’t needed in calm seas but are crucial during storms.

Depression, in various forms, affects many of us throughout our lives—through grief, prolonged stress, illness, or loss. That reality does not threaten Christianity. In fact, the Bible’s honesty about despair is one of its strongest points. It presents us with faithful people who struggle with darkness but still trust God.

Faith doesn’t lessen our humanity; it shows us how to steer through it.

A Message to the daughter — and to the Church

To the daughter who loves her mother: your mother’s struggles are not signs of spiritual failure. They show that she is human. The fact that she understands the mind does not protect her from suffering. Knowledge does not make her immune.

To the church: the safest place in the world for someone battling depression should be the body of Christ, not a courtroom or a theological debate. It should serve as a refuge.

Hope doesn’t depend on the absence of sorrow; it relies on God’s presence within it. The author of Lamentations acknowledged the darkness and remembered the Lord through it. Maybe that is the more faithful approach.

Hope isn’t the denial of sorrow; it’s a choice to trust that God stays present even when the soul feels downcast.

January 6, 2026December 12, 2025

The Quiet Violence of Innocence

While reading recently, I encountered a term that initially sounded academic, almost theoretical: violent innocence. At first, I thought it described others—two people or organizations engaged in passive conflict, each claiming innocence while quietly undermining one another. It seemed like a more refined version of passive-aggressive behavior. But as I reflected on it further, it became more unsettling. Not because it described others so accurately, but because it revealed something inside me.

What Is Violent Innocence?

The definition I found was simple but piercing:

Violent innocence refers to a process where an individual or institution inflicts harm while simultaneously claiming innocence, denying responsibility, and defending a self-image of being “good” or “undefiled.”

The violence is subtle. The innocence seems real. And the harm exists in the space between who we believe we are and what our actions — or inactions — actually cause.

James 4:17, “If anyone knows the good, they ought to do and doesn’t do it, it is sin.”

That’s the harsh truth: we can sin just by doing nothing. We can cause harm without yelling or fists. We can hurt others simply by refusing to love.

I Never Thought of Myself as Violent

As a Christian, I have always reserved the term violence for physical or emotional cruelty. Violence comes from rage, evil, or malice—qualities I do not associate with my life. Yet Jesus elevated the standard far beyond physical acts.

Titus 3:14, “Our people must learn to devote themselves to doing what is good, to provide for urgent needs and not live unproductive lives.”

In God’s perspective, violence isn’t just physical harm like broken bones or bruised feelings. It can also be shown through neglect, indifference, silence, refusal to act, withholding mercy, or withholding truth. Harm can come from absence just as easily as from actions.

We depend on artificial rules and protocols to stop us from acting, which in turn protects us from responsibility. We ignore a need, choose comfort over compassion, or justify our inaction with polished excuses — we take part in a form of harm we might never recognize in ourselves.

And we do it while maintaining the belief that we are good.

The Violence of Our Excuses

Almost every day, we get the chance to help someone — and almost every day, we find a reason not to. I don’t have time, or I’d rather not get involved, or even better, they created their situation; now they have to face the consequences.

These statements seem harmless, even rational. But beneath them is a calculation: my convenience outweighs their need.

Proverbs 3:27 “Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due, when it is in your power to act.”

Withholding good is not neutral. It shapes the world around us. It shapes our own hearts.

Violent innocence flourishes in this space — where we safeguard our perception of goodness by dismissing the opportunities we pass up.

The Most Damaging Violence: Withholding the Gospel

Here is where the concept becomes painfully personal. As believers, we carry the message of eternal hope — the only hope that rescues the soul. Yet, there are countless moments when we could speak but choose not to. We soften the edges. We stay polite. We remain safe.

If the gospel is life, then silence is not harmless. It is a failure of love.

1 Corinthians 9:16, “Woe to me if I do not preach the gospel!”

Matthew 28:19, “Go and make disciples of all nations.”

When we withhold the truth that could save someone’s eternal life, our innocence turns into a form of violence. Not physical violence — but spiritual neglect. Eternal neglect.

This isn’t about guilt; it’s about responsibility. It’s about love brave enough to risk discomfort for another’s soul.

Letting Go of the Protected Lie

Violent innocence lets us comfortably believe we’re harmless. But Jesus didn’t call us to be harmless. He called us to love—bold, sacrificial, inconvenient love.

Galatians 6:2, “Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.”

To bear a burden, we must first be willing to feel its weight.

We need to allow God to uncover the harm concealed within our innocence—not to condemn us, but to set us free. Innocence isn’t the absence of wrongdoing; it’s the presence of active love.

My prayer is this:

Lord, break the illusion of my innocence and grant me the courage to love.

Let me never cause harm through silence, neglect, or convenience. Let my life demonstrate the mark of someone who took action — someone who loved — even when it was costly.

1 John 3:17, “If anyone has material possessions and sees a brother or sister in need but has no pity on them, how can the love of God be in that person?”