Love Without Words

Acts of Kindness

Love without words is the most challenging love of all; It requires the person expressing their love to understand the recipient’s love language and to take physical action. “I love You” is easy to say even when you don’t mean it. It is difficult when it connotates weakness or vulnerability. Determining what a person needs to feel loved requires attention to detail. Showing love without words isn’t about saying what you think is loving, but doing what they need to feel loved. To do that, you must take the time to understand and care.

1 John 3:18, “Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.”

Words and Speech

“Kindness has converted more sinners than zeal, eloquence, or learning.” – Frederick W. Faber.

Kind words do heal. They bring peace to the weary. Kind words should never be used sparingly. They are the suave to the wounds of life. We should always try to communicate with love and compassion. The world is full of trouble; we should not add to it.

Proverbs 16:24, “Kind words are like honey – sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.”

But it is easy for Christians to talk. We placate people with words, quote scripture, and offer prayers. Prayer is always good and should precede every action, but it is not enough. Scripture is fundamental to understanding what God wants us to do, but it is not the doing.

The use of words when action is needed paints Christianity as hypocritical. Jesus modeled what He taught. He demonstrated what He said through His actions. We need to be doers of the word, not just sayers.

James 1:22, “Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says.”

What would it be like to sit quietly listening, then wordlessly act, meeting a need without being asked or receiving praise? When all you do is give advice, console, be empathetic, and then move on with your life, you have done more harm than good. You have provided evidence of your shallowness and the shallowness of being Christian, harming the one you speak to, and grieving the Holy Spirit.

Titus 1:16, “They profess to know God, but they deny him by their works. They are detestable, disobedient, unfit for any good work.”

Action and Deeds

2 Corinthians 5:10, “For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each one may receive what is due for what he has done in the body, whether good or evil.”

For what they have done, an action word. It does not say we will receive judgment for everything we say, but what we have done. I would argue that saying without doing it sometimes does great harm.

James 2:17, “So also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead.”

Faith without works is dead. That is not hard to understand. One of the most rewarding things a Christian can do is to help someone in need without being asked. The joy of seeing a need and then using the resources God has put at your disposal to meet that need is overwhelming. To do it anonymously, praising God for the opportunity, is even better. God loves that we acknowledge that He, and He alone, makes it possible. He loves that we act according to the gospel, redistributing His resources. There will always be an opportunity to witness to that person after their need is met. But meeting their need opens the door to that conversation.

James 2:26, “For as the body apart from the spirit is dead, so also faith apart from works is dead.”

Random Acts of Kindness

When a stranger walks into someone’s life without provocation and does something to help, it leaves an indelible mark. People will not remember what was said, but they will remember the act of a stranger. Giving generously of your time is more extravagant than giving generously of your money.

Plan “random” acts of kindness that embed a gospel presentation.

Train yourself to be ready to give, serve, show love, and act in every season or circumstance.

Become the sort of person for whom Jesus-like acts of kindness become natural.

Matthew 5:16, “In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.”

Randon Acts:

      •  Mail a gift card to someone going through a rough season (not text or email)
      •  Mow your neighbor’s lawn
      •  Rake your neighbor’s leaves
      •  Shovel your neighbor’s driveway and/or walkway
      •  Weed your neighbor’s flower garden
      •  Take out your neighbor’s bins on trash day
      •  Leave an encouraging note on a car windshield in the parking lot
      •  Offer to babysit so a couple you know can have a date night
      •  Offer to babysit the kids of a single mom so she can go shopping or have a few hours to herself (make this a regular thing!)
      •  Mentor a young adult.
      •  Offer a free class to kids (or beginner-level adults) on a topic in which you are skilled or knowledgeable: crochet, history, meal planning, budgeting, soccer, art, photography, woodworking, car maintenance, etc.
      •  Help someone move
      •  Talk to someone on the street. Buy them a meal, hang out with them, give them a hug or an affirming touch.

The Greatest Name in History (Repost from 02/201/22)

The Greatest Name in History was originally posted in February 2022. But as we close out the Christmas season, I thought it was important to revisit it. Here it is.

Who is the greatest name in history? In the western world, you acknowledge Christ’s influence on your life any time you write a date on something. Crazy, isn’t it, how one man 2,000 years ago could still influence everyday life for almost everyone.

According to statistics from Wycliffe International, Gideons International, and the International Bible Society, the number of new Bibles sold, given away, or otherwise distributed in the United States is about 168,000 per day. In addition, the research conducted by the British and Foreign Bible Society in 2021 suggests that there are between 5 and 7 billion copies of the Bible distributed in the last 1,500 years.

The History Collection, a website dedicated to teaching history to the masses, created its list of the 40 most influential people in history; Jesus was number one, beating out names like Albert Einstein, Isaac Newton, Leonardo da Vinci, Galileo Galilei, and Aristotle.

Steve Skiena and Charles Ward, in their book “Who’s Bigger,” created a complex combination of measures to establish their “significance” ranking; they assessed more than 800,000 names throughout history. Number one on their list was Jesus. Judging strictly on longevity and influence, Jesus was determined to be the biggest name in human history ever.

Jesus has two billion people following His teachings over 2,000 years after His death; that’s pretty influential.

Why Jesus?

Isaiah 53:4, “Surely he took up our pain and bore our suffering, yet we considered him punished by God, stricken by him, and afflicted.”

Jesus never penned a best seller or sang a top 100 song. He didn’t invent a game-changing product or create a Fortune 100 company. Jesus had no Twitter account or Facebook page; Jesus was not an influencer on TikTok. He had no title or education and no political affiliation. Rather, he was a homeless, itinerate, unemployed preacher. His ministry was only three years.

Whether you believe Jesus is the son of God or not, you can not get away from His influence on your life. Several years ago, a book was published entitled “A Case for Christ,”; written by Lee Strobel in 1998. Strobel painstakingly applies forensic anthropology to validate the historical events in the Bible. It is almost 300 pages of detailed analysis and interrogation into the authenticity of the writings about Jesus. He concludes that everything written in the Bible about Jesus is historically accurate: miracles, quotations, and resurrection included.

If Jesus walked the face of this earth, and the historic chronology about Him is accurate, why do we struggle so much with believing He is the Son of God? Better yet, why do we battle to believe what He says?

Time magazine in the June 21st, 1971 edition, quoted the journalist William Emerson Jr. “that in different centuries and cultures, people have always concocted ‘the sort of Jesus they could live with.’”

Non-believers will say that believers must have this make-believe miracle worker in their lives to overcome their insecurities and give them hope. To them, following Jesus is a cop-out to facing the realities of the world. We have to have a bigger-than-life superhero to make it through the day. Unfortunately, for some Christians, that is true; their faith does not know the truth; it wishes it were true.

2 Peter 2:20, “For if, after they have escaped the defilements of the world by the knowledge of the Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, they are again entangled in them and are overcome, the last state has become worse for them than the first.”

The reality of Christianity isn’t that it makes life easier; it makes us more accountable. But unfortunately, this accountability causes most of us to be uncomfortable. The Bible never said that we would not see pain and suffering; it said it would only last a little while. Eternity is a very long time.

The number one hurdle for most non-believers is not finding hope in greater power; it is being held accountable for their actions. Postmodernism allows everyone to be responsible for their version of the truth. They can be a good person based on their perception of good. On the other hand, Christians are accountable to one great truth: there is no sliding scale.

John 1:14, “The Word became flesh and made His dwelling among us. We have seen His glory, the glory of the one and only Son, who came from the Father, full of grace and truth.”

Jesus is the author of that great truth. That is why Jesus. Because Jesus is the light in the darkness, he is the horizon point that we use to guide our decisions. He is the most powerful and influential force in the history of humankind.

John 14:6, “Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.”

Even before you feel the transformational impact of forgiveness, you have to acknowledge the importance of who Christ is and what He has done. Once you accept He is who He said He is, then you will start to experience the grace, compassion, and love inherent in His nature.

“Jesus didn’t come to tell us the answers to the questions of life; he came to be the answer.” Timothy Keller

Who is the greatest name in history? Knowing Christ and knowing about Christ are two different things. The world knows about Christ. Therefore, you must come to know Christ.

1 John 5:20, “And we know that the Son of God has come, and has given us understanding so that we may know Him who is true; and we are in Him who is true, in His Son Jesus Christ. This is the true God and eternal life.”

Ahaziah’s Christmas Story

Ahaziah’s Christmas Story: I wondered what it might be like for a commoner (Ahaziah) to come across Jesus in Bethlehem. We know Jesus and the historical and spiritual impact of His birth. But what about a guy going about his business in ancient Bethlehem? Here is what I imagine that make-believe story to be.

Ahaziah’s Christmas Story

Ahaziah’s Christmas Story starts with Ahaziah walking down Market Street. He is a vendor of clay pots. The sun had set, and the stars began to shine, except for that bright star that seemed to shine all day. There was a lot of talk about it, but no one seemed to know its meaning. It was the time of Tishri, early spring; everything was trying to renew after the winter. It was a good night for a walk.

This year is the year of the census in Bethlehem Ephrathah. He grumbled over the lack of food, the overcrowding, and the noise. Ahaziah wanted his town back to normal. Usually, he walked in the evenings to meditate on all that God had done for him that day.

Luke 2:1, “In those days Caesar Augustus issued a decree that a census should be taken of the entire Roman world.”

But when they were taking the census, the town was in chaos. There was not enough housing or food. The shortages stretched People’s emotions as children whined, animals bayed, and the smells were overwhelming. The good people of Bethlehem tried to anticipate the shortages by stocking up on everything they thought they would need but couldn’t prepare for the wave of humanity; they were like ants everywhere, all the time.

THE MEETING

The hinge of history is on the door of a Bethlehem stable. – Ralph W. Sockman

Luke 2: 6-7, “While they were there, the time came for the baby to be born, and she gave birth to her firstborn, a son. She wrapped him in cloths and placed him in a manger because there was no guest room available for them.”

Ahaziah walked by Elisav’s house; she was an old friend with many relatives staying with her because of the census. All her rooms (kataluma) were filled before Joseph and Mary arrived. He knows this because Mary was well along in her pregnancy, and Elisav was concerned. Even in this hectic environment, the commotion around her house was noticeable, but the large crowd was quiet, almost reverent. What was going on? Had Mary had her child? Was there an incident?

Luke 2:8-9. “Now there were in the same country shepherds living out in the fields, keeping watch over their flock by night. And behold, an angel of the Lord stood before them, and the glory of the Lord shone around them, and they were greatly afraid.”

Ahaziah approached. There was a strange aura surrounding the property. His heart was lightened, and he felt a sense of awe with trepidation. Something had happened. Some of Jehdeiah’s shepherds were here; why were they not in the fields? He elbowed his way through the crowd to see what caused the commotion. They were all staring at a teenage girl with her newborn infant. This child must be Mary, whom Elisav talked about. But why was everyone here?

One look into her eyes took Ahaziah’s breath away. She wasn’t beautiful in the ordinary sense, but she seemed stunning; she had a radiance and a peace that drew people in. It made you want what she had. The child was extraordinary; at just a few days old, laying in a feeding trough, he held the majesty of a king. This image created a mental confusion; it was hard to understand what a King was doing in a manger.

Micah 5: 2-5, “But you, Bethlehem Ephrathah, though you are small among the clans of Judah, out of you will come for me one who will be ruler over Israel, whose origins are from of old, from ancient times.”
 Therefore, Israel will be abandoned until the time when she, who is in labor, bears a son, and the rest of his brothers return to join the Israelites.
 He will stand and shepherd his flock in the strength of the Lord, in the majesty of the name of the Lord his God. And they will live securely, for then his greatness will reach the ends of the earth.
 And he will be our peace when the Assyrians invade our land and march through our fortresses. We will raise against them seven shepherds, even eight commanders.”

THE MOMENT

The Almighty appeared on earth as a helpless human baby, needing to be fed, changed, and taught to talk like any other child. The more you think about it, the more staggering it gets. Nothing in fiction is so fantastic as this truth of the Incarnation. – J.I. Packer

Time stopped for Ahaziah, and all his thoughts melted away, for what seemed like forever, he stood transfixed on this little infant King. He tried to reconcile how something so small and helpless could be the savior of humanity. It didn’t make sense. Yet, he knew that God said it was so. His mind went to the teachings of the Torah. The prophets talked about this very moment. But it wasn’t what he expected. There was no army or entourage, just a tiny infant wrapped in a blanket. There was no crown, scepter, or Royal Robe. How could this be?

Eventually, Ahaziah went home to explain everything he had experienced to his wife.

Was Ahaziah’s eyes open when this child preached in the synagogue or when he changed water to wine or fed the five thousand? Did he believe after the crucifixion, resurrection, or ascension? Did He ever believe?

FAST FORWARD

We know Jesus as our King. The Bible is a testimony to all that He accomplished during His ministry. The significance of the moment that confused Ahaziah is clear to us. Jesus died for our sins, rose again, and sits at the right hand of God, His Father. If Ahaziah had any idea of how that moment would change the trajectory of all humanity, he would have laid prostrate in front of that tiny infant.

What is God doing in your life today that you can’t reconcile? Is there something God has performed in your life that you want to explain away because it’s not rational, logical, or reasonable? It was not what you thought it would be. David was anointed King by Samual in this city, then had to run for his life. Moses was exiled to be a shepherd until the burning bush. Ester faced all her difficulties, including serving a pagan King, until her moment arose: what is your Ahaziah moment? When did God show His face, but you were not ready to believe?

This Christmas, reconcile that Christ is King over all things. He doesn’t show up to impress; He shows up to save. It is not always what we expect but precisely what we need.

All Christians Have to Choose between Jesus or Religion

Choosing between Jesus and religion is a topic that often sparks deep contemplation and discussion among believers. It revolves around the distinction between a personal relationship with Jesus Christ and the institutionalized practices and doctrines associated with organized religion.

 “I believe that a great number of people are going to die and go to hell because they’re counting on their religiosity in the church instead of their relationship with Jesus to get them to heaven. They give lip service to repentance and faith, but they’ve never been born again.” – Adrian Rogers

The question of Jesus or religion has come up several times this week. First, it had to do with my church. We received a new Senior Pastor a couple of years ago, and the church is still in the throes of regime change. Change is inevitable; it is unavoidable. I believe God will have me run to something, not away from something. If He wants me to escape a situation, He will provide me with an attractive alternative; otherwise, it is out of the frying pan and into the fire. God has me staying put for now.

The change that is slowly coming about is a change toward ritualization. We are slowly acclimating ourselves to respond to specific phrases with an automatic response. There is talk of guiding the community groups to have a consistent topic in all groups simultaneously. That topic, with the structured delivery, will be chosen by the church staff. I go to a non-denominational church on purpose. I have been to many denominational churches and find that most are caught up in religion.

Mark 12:30, “And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.”

Rules vs Grace

When faced with the decision of Jesus or religion, I chose Jesus. I want an amazing scripture-based, gospel-fearing, Jesus-loving experience. That is just me; I am not a joiner. I understand other people need to have structure and their need to belong to something. Religion many times helps us grow closer to Christ. I understand that some people are more comfortable with learning within a structure, which is not bad. It is when religion becomes the foundation that defines Christ it becomes bad. That has never been my thing. But it raises an interesting question; is your need Jesus or religion? Is your need to have an intimate, personal relationship with your creator, or is it the comfort of conformity? That sounds harsh, I know, but for some, it is the reality of their belief system. If others believe it, I’m more comfortable believing it. If my church leader sets the parameters to get into heaven, I am more comfortable believing that I will get to heaven if I follow the rules.

James 1:27, “Religion that is pure and undefiled before God the Father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world.”

Before his death, Regi Campbell wrote a daily devotional called “Radical Wisdom.” Regi was one of the founders of High-Tech Ministries. I knew Regi and belonged to HTM for a couple of decades. He was a man filled with Godly wisdom. He continues to mentor young Christians even after his passing. In one of his devotionals, he asks, “Jesus or Religion.” I found it interesting that the same day I had lunch with a fellow parishioner discussing the changes at my church, Regi brought up this topic in his devotional. I am not saying the direction of my church is right or wrong; it is to say that God wants me to think about this seriously.

Galatians 5:4, “For if you are trying to make yourselves right with God by keeping the law, you have been cut off from Christ! You have fallen away from God’s grace.”

Allegiance

Just where is my allegiance? Is it Jesus or my church? Do I go to heaven because I belong to the right group and follow their rules or because I have a personal relationship with Christ? This question was amplified this year on one of my mission trips. The group I volunteer with, IMED, helps create Kingdom Impact businesses in underdeveloped countries. The key is Kingdom Impact. The business must have an evangelistic component to be funded by the host organization. They can always use the business plan we create to obtain conventional funding, but if you want it from us, you must have a Kingdom Impact.

This year I saw a more significant percentage of the participant felt it was the responsibility of their church to drive Kingdom Impact. Their only responsibility was to tithe to their church. Even though our training was precise about this point, they did not get it. They wrapped themselves too tightly in the rules of their religion. They did not see the compassion of Christ as a personal matter. The church saved them, and the church will save the others. They needed to live in a “Christ-like” manner; that is it. They seem to forget that Christ spread the gospel to anyone willing to listen; he did not leave it up to the Pharisees and Sagesses. Jesus was opposed to the religiosity of the church.

Strong Words

Galatians 2:21, “I do not treat the grace of God as meaningless. For if keeping the law could make us right with God, then there was no need for Christ to die.”

Jesus has strong words for those who use religious rules to manipulate others (Matthew 23). He does not provide much room for compassion for those who want to take the short road to salvation. He has even stronger words for those who lead them.

1 John 1:7, “But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus his Son cleanses us from all sin.”

Belong to any church you want. Support any denomination you want. Make sure you go to church; God built us for community. But, serve Christ, not man. When it comes to Jesus or religion, always choose Jesus.

In his book Sit, Walk, Stand, Watchman Nee states that our response to everything should be through the cross. Right or wrong, good or bad isn’t the question. When we sit long enough to consider what Jesus did and let that feeling fill us, we walk differently, respond differently, and speak differently.

John 14:6, “Jesus said to him, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.”

Another Christmas Story

Christmas Story
Isaiah 7:14

The Birth of Christ is the greatest of all stories. Within that Christmas story, there is another story that comes to mind. This story within a story is about obedience and the ramifications of that obedience.

“Christmas is about change. It’s a time we open our hearts before we open our presents.” -Toni Sorenson.

Obedience

Acts 1:14, “Mary, the mother of Jesus.”

This time of year brings about introspection. It usually starts with me thinking about the Christmas story and Mary. It then progresses to my story, where I have been, and what I have done.

Mary was a teenager when Gabriel visited her with his alarming proclamation—alarming from the standpoint that Mary had no predisposition to believe that Gabriel would visit her. She certainly did not anticipate that he would turn her life upside down. I can’t imagine that a teenage girl would believe that the God of the Universe would choose her over members of the families of Sadducees and Pharisees, who certainly had to be more righteous. Gabriel dared to burden her with one of her culture’s biggest taboos while simultaneously stating that she would not be just an unwed mother with a child but a child who would change the world for all humanity. That had to be an overwhelming experience. Her response is priceless.

Luke 1:38, “I am the Lord’s servant,” Mary answered. “May your word to me be fulfilled.”

I wonder about the strength of her character, which flowed so easily into obedience. This thing that was asked of her was so foreign yet familiar. What is the biggest thing God has ever asked of you? That is one of the first questions I ask myself.  Not just what does He want now, but what has He always wanted from me? Do I flow so easily into obedience?

“Christmas is a season not only of rejoicing but of reflection.” — Winston Churchill.

The Launch of Responsibility

Obedience requires action. No response is a response. Mary’s Christmas story only started with Gabriel. Although Mary did not initiate her new responsibility, she accepted and nourished it. Again, I picture the teenage girl looking at her newborn child, helpless and defenseless, yet knowing he is the Messiah. Did she understand the power and majesty of that little bundle? She was now tasked with raising the Son of God. She would feed him, change His diapers, and teach him to walk and talk. Yet he, at that moment, probably knew more about her than she did Him.

God has asked a lot less of me. But He does expect a response. Not because He needs me but because He wants me to be part of His plan. Mary had a physical representation of God’s will in her life. She could not and would not ignore the needs of her child. The fact that He was the Son of God made the task more urgent but not more necessary. Can I say that I respond the same way to that which He has put before me? Is it both necessary and urgent?

“Christmas is not a time nor a season, but a state of mind. To cherish peace and goodwill, to be plenteous in mercy, is to have the real spirit of Christmas.” –Calvin Coolidge

Dedication to the Goal

Luke 2:19, “But Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart.”

This Christmas story ended years later, but we will get to that another time. For now, let us enjoy the moment. Mary most likely knew the prophecy concerning her child. Also, like most people in her time, she might not have yet understood how the prophecy would be fulfilled. Her focus was on raising a healthy and happy child. She did not fully understand the significance of Jesus’ time on earth but knew it was world-changing. Mary spent over 10,000 days making meals, washing dirty clothes, and keeping Him safe before He revealed His ministry to the world. It was a long time of watching His every move and wondering. Thirty years is a long time to remember what Gabriel said. But, she trusted God. She never wavered.

Mark 6:3, “Isn’t this the carpenter? Isn’t this Mary’s son and the brother of James, Joseph, Judas and Simon? Aren’t his sisters here with us?” And they took offense at him.”

How dedicated am I when God’s results don’t track with my expectations; am I to forge a new path, create a new shortcut, or drop what I believe is an unproductive approach? How quick am I to give up, thinking I misunderstood the message?

Tenacity is found in hope, and hope is found in purpose. Once we understand that our only purpose in life is to delight our creator, then hope becomes a natural extension of our being. Hope in a promise made thousands of years ago. Hope is the fuel that drives the engine of obedience.

“Optimism is a wish without warrant; Christian hope is a certainty, guaranteed by God himself. Optimism reflects ignorance as to whether good things will ever actually come. Christian hope expresses knowledge that every day of his life, and every moment beyond it, the believer can say with truth, on the basis of God’s own commitment, that the best is yet to come.” – J. I. Packer