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Live for What Matters

You are blessed when you become content with who and what you are because it is only then that you receive everything you ever really wanted. It is in that moment that you truly become free to live a life worth living.

Psalm 37:4, “Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.”

Most of the struggle we have with other people is a struggle within ourselves. It is a struggle to have meaning and value. It is a struggle to be seen and heard. The struggle is not a question of who is right and who is wrong; it is a spiritual struggle to matter in a noisy, confusing and increasingly evil world.

James 4:2, “You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet, but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God.”

God had made each of us uniquely gifted to live the story He had created for us before we even came into existence. I used to think of that story, much like a novel. It has a plot with antagonists and protagonists; it has a journey and an overcoming. Most of all, it had a happy ending, at least mostly. This story is written in the context of the world in which I lived. The decisions I made about love and jobs, and destinations all had a specific impact on the plotline. I could deviate from the original plot, but then the story lost continuity and rhythm.

But then I started to realize that my assumption was flawed. Maybe the story wasn’t so much about the worldly aspect of  my life, but spiritual? What if the story written by God, especially for me, was to glorify Him in all that I do? What if I was free to choose my path, but the intent remained the same; every step was an opportunity to glorify God?

Now, this new thesis has a caveat. The caveat is that God gave me a unique set of skills and attributes that are to be used to glorify Him, such that a specific path is better than all other ways. But the intent stays the same for all of us; that is to glorify God in what we become. Some paths give us challenges outside of our natural gifts and cause us to stumble. Some people make us struggle with our identity and cause us to take our eyes off of the original intent. We need to stay focused not on our talents and gifts, but God.

Matthew 5:9, “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God.”

We are to be peacemakers. We are to take strife and conflict out of the world, not to be at war with it. We intend to attract others to seek God by them wanting the peace and contentment in which we live. We want everyone to be called a child of God.

John 1:12, “But as many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become children of God, even to those who believe in His name,”

God made us in His image. He made us so that He could enjoy communion with us. We must learn to be content with who God made us because; He created us for a specific purpose that no other can accomplish. He did not design us to compete with His other creations. They all have a purpose. All are meant to glorify their maker, each in their own way.

Genesis 1:27, “God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them”

We are to be led by the spirit to use the talents and gifts attributed explicitly to each of us to glorify God. We do not have to fight for meaning or value; they have already been established. If we do not have the right hair color, height or weight, job, education, or whatever your vice is, it’s OK. You are perfect in God’s eyes just as you are. He made you. The greatness in you comes from the contentment of being just who you are. Everything else is dust-to-dust. Live for what matters.

Are we actively seeking God’s kingdom in all that we do and say?

Romans 8:14, “For all who are being led by the Spirit of God, these are sons of God.”

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Nameless, Unremembered Acts of Kindness

“The best portion of a good man’s life is his little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and of love.” – William Wordsworth

“Nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and love.” are these ever little? Maya Angelou said it best in her award-winning book “Why the Caged Bird Sings,” “At the end of the day people won’t remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel.” In the future, we have forgotten the tiff or the argument or the strife, but we remember the hurt. Similarly, songs of our youth bring us great joy, not because of the lyrics or tune, but because of the emotion of that time wafting back into our memory. We do not remember who we were with or what we were doing, but we remember how we felt.

John McAlister was one of the great men in my life. I knew him for a very short time through work; he was an older man of about fifty, and I was in my early twenties. He spoke hard truth to me with kindness. I ruthlessly drove to prove myself in everything. I was a go-fast kind of kid. It was never my intention to mistreat others; I didn’t know they were there. I ran over them like a fullback on the two-yard line. John would remind me; to be great, I had to understand and appreciate others around me. They would take me farther than I could bring myself.

Proverbs 11:17,” A man who is kind benefits himself, but a cruel man hurts himself.”

Years later, I heard the African proverb “to go fast, go alone: to go far, go together.” and John immediately came to mind. I think of him often, although I cannot recall a single conversation. I do hope I will see him again. John is a permanent tattoo on my heart.

Luke 6:35, “But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return, and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High, …”

Today this verse comes to mind, not because I have enemies, but because I have friends I sometimes treat like enemies. Some of my friends are interesting characters, some experience bad days or have strange passions. There are times when my reactions to these oddities are less than loving. Generally, it happens when I am low on emotional energy. As an introvert, my batteries have to be recharged regularly, or my responses become, let us say, unfiltered.

Epictetus is famous for saying’, “It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.” It is quoted so often that it has become a cliché. Paul says it in a more meaningful way. We cannot control what happens to us, but we can control how we react to it. Much like Luke, the critical element is to love.

Ephesians 4:2, “Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowances for each other’s faults because of your love.”

Love, what an incredible emotion. There is nothing more exhilarating than being overtaken by the tsunami called love.  As humans, we crave it as much as the air we breathe. If this thing called love is what drives us, why do we keep it from others? Why, in an unfiltered moment, do I revert away from love, not toward it? I don’t know; pride, ego, downright meanness. It is one of the flaws of a fallen world; we inflict pain to avoid pain. It is a thing I have spent many a prayerful night over.

I do know this; always try to demonstrate love. For me, it is easier to do something then say something. Maybe that is a guy thing, or perhaps it is just a Tomme thing.

1 John 3:18, “Little children, let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth.

I am human, I am flawed, and I am trying to get better. That is all any of us can do. Chase God until there is not a fiber of your being that isn’t screaming out in pure joy. Make every moment count like it was your last; it might be. In that unfiltered moment that will come, call on the God that loved you first to help you love others. Channel the exhilaration of being loved into loving others. Remember you were made in the image of God.

Micah 6:8, “He has told you, O man, what is good; and what does the Lord require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God?”

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Love; Falling into the Great Abyss

This morning I struggle with great truth. I have the joy of being chosen to serve people that God has set aside for great things. The love that God speaks through me to them is a love I covet for myself. It is an amazing, burning love; it is so deep and sincere. It exists not for flattery or vanity or self. These people will impact God’s kingdom and a way that I could only hope. I am not lessor for their greatness; I’m just not them. God has His plan for me. Mine is no less relevant or meaningful. I feel His love for these people, and it overwhelms me.

I was meant to be in their lives. It was part of God’s plan for each of us. What they are doing I could never do, it is not my gift, but I love it. When they doubt, God gives me a word or two that builds them back up. You see, they are very good at choosing joy. They are good at walking through the pain and hard times to come out the other end as an encourager. But some of them seldom have the welling in their heart that explodes into uncontrollable joy. This grieves God.

1 John 4:16, “And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God and God in them.”

God doesn’t want us to spend our lives choosing joy. He wants us to experience it. God wants us to feel the love He has for us. He wants us to love as He loves. He knows to do that we have to experience pain along the way.

1 John 4:19, “We love because he first loved us.”

To guard against that pain is to resign yourself to choosing joy, not experiencing it. Do you have the courage to love like God? What type of love does it take to endure the humiliation and pain of the cross? What does it take to be rejected by those you love most and have come to save? What does it take to love so deeply and so purely and still face their scorn?

John 3:16, “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”

Do you have that courage? Will you allow yourself to be vulnerable enough to ride that roller coaster? Can you face the pain without anger or resentment?

I have to tell you that when God speaks to me about this, it’s incredible. I want to be them. I want to be loved and love as they are. But you see, I see my failings, I see my sin, my shame. I see the dark shadow in the mirror in front of me and say no, that is not for me.

I allow another greater sin. I authorize the evil one to blind my eyes. I believe that God’s love is only for the deserving and the great. A man like me can never be loved like that.

If I give you one thing this morning and this one thing sticks in your brain, know this: God loves you like that. God loves you with a passion and a purity that defies description. It will overwhelm your soul. It does not matter your past. It does not matter who you think you are. What matters is what God knows you to be.

This morning I am glad that God does not allow me to determine His love for me. I am blessed that I don’t get to set the boundaries. I am thankful that He does not see me as I see myself.

Folks, put aside the old self and allow God’s love to wash over you like a high tide. Fill your heart with desperation and longing for even more. Send your senses to the brink, to the edge of the great abyss, and fall in love. Feel the fear and thrill of being uncontrollably loved. Allow God to love you as no person can or ever will. You will become an addict and will never be the same.

I’m working on that. God has shown me the abyss, but I have not chosen to fall into it. I want to more than anything. I’m afraid that I am not worthy. That is why these people are in my life; to teach me that I am.

Romans 8:38, “And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love”.

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Root Cause

The root cause of every sin and conflict in our lives is spiritual warfare. Whenever I feel envy or jealousy, it is because I have forgotten that God made me in His image. Whenever I feel lost or abandoned, I have forgotten that all things work for God’s good. Whenever I feel fear or anxiety, I have forgotten that God has a plan for me to prosper, not destroy.

Genesis 1:27, “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.”

Romans 8:28, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”

Jeremiah 29:11, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

In the middle of the battle, it is easy to lose sight of the enemy. The struggle becomes about preservation and protection; we lose sight of the victory. We fight to survive; we fight for the right to exist and continue; we lose sight for whom and what we are fighting.

When we have lost our job, we focus on paying bills and feeding our family and ourselves. When we lose a loved one or suffer through debilitating pain, we focus on relief and comfort. When someone betrays us for another, or we get passed over for a promotion, we want confirmation of our self-worth. We become focused on the short term, not eternity; this is human nature. It is the way of the world. It is who we became after the fall.

Getting a quick new job or a new love may bring immediate comfort , but it also might not be the the right solution. In the long run is can mask the underlying problem that will soon come back. It is a placebo that mimics relief, only to let you down later.

I would suggest that if we could take a deep breath, step back from the immediate for a second, we might see a bigger plan. We might see the spiritual battle raging around us. We might see the immediate solution does not bring lasting peace; it brings temporary relief. We might see that God can and will use this very moment to enrich our lives beyond our dreams.

John 1:45-46, “Can any good thing come out of Nazareth?” Philip said to him, “Come and see.”

Can any good thing come out of Nazareth? Can any good thing come of our despair? Come and see. I don’t want to seem Polly Anna about this; we have worldly needs that we must address. But thinking that addressing only those needs will somehow solve the bigger problem is foolish. The bigger problem, the problem that brings the most distress, is a  lack of faith. The immediate problem needs a resolution, but knowing that God had written your story before you came into existence and He has foreseen this very moment, should bring reassurance, hope for the future and a degree of patience.

Psalm 139:16, “You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed.”

The outcome may not be what you envisioned. It may not be as timely as you would like. It may not be easy, but it will be best in the long term. The struggle remains a struggle, but it is no longer a fight you fight alone. The closer you are to Christ, the darker the forces against you, the more you need an army to fight beside you.

Joel 2:11, “The LORD utters his voice before his army, for his camp is exceedingly great; he who executes his word is powerful. For the day of the LORD is great and very awesome; who can endure it?”

The next time darkness overcomes you, close your eyes and see His mighty army surrounding you. When jealousy, hate, envy, fear, or anxiety consume your soul, take a minute to close your eyes, and see God’s glory all around you. Take command of all of God’s army with a powerful voice. God knows what we need; he will provide. We must remember that the battle is not a worldly battle over fear or material gain; it is a spiritual battle over our eternal soul.

We are a prize that the Lord will not surrender.

Ephesians 6:12, “For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.”

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When God Seems Silent

I don’t know about you, but one of the most fearful times in my life is when God seems silent. The silence creates a vacuum of self-doubt and self-condemnation. It is a breeding ground for spiritual cancer. His silence generally is more about my not hearing, rather than Him not talking. More times than not, I don’t want to hear because I have my desires, and it is not His desire. Sometimes, it is a time of contemplation in which I need to consider all that He has said and weigh it against my desires.

There are many passages, especially in the Old Testament, that speak of God’s silence. Habakkuk laments, “Why are You silent when the wicked swallow up those more righteous than they?” Job questioned, “When He keeps quiet, who then can condemn?” David called out to God, “For if You are silent to me, I will become like those who go down to the pit.” Asaph begged, “O God, do not remain quiet; Do not be silent and, O God, do not be still.”

A time of silence from God is not a time when nothing is happening. It is time to dig deeper to understand our relationship with God and how it can be better. It is a time of self-examination. God does not stop talking; he changes tone, texture, and volume. Great speakers use changes in pitch, cadence, and volume to get the audience’s attention. Sometimes they shout because of the need for urgency. Sometimes they whisper to indicate intimacy and compassion. God is not limited to our tricks in communications; he is multi-modal. He has many channels.

 Ecclesiastes 9:17, “The quiet words of the wise are more to be heeded than the shouts of a ruler of fools.”

God speaks through the Spirit that we inherited as children of God. He speaks through scripture and wise words of Christian friends and authors. He repeats His message until we acknowledge hearing it. When God is silent, it is we who have gone deaf. It is we who pay more attention to the voices in our heads than the word of God. Our self-talk has more credibility than God’s word. Self-talk is not condemnation; it is the natural result of living in a fallen world.

Isaiah 55:8-11, “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord. “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.”

Our knowledge and vision are inferior to God’s; we craft solutions based on what we know or perceive. Those solutions drive our desire. God’s answer may be outside of our expectations or even our understanding. Jonah didn’t want salvation for those he saw as evil; he wanted condemnation. God saw it differently, so Jonah ran. How often do we run because what we want is not what we know God wants?

For most of us, the more significant issue is timing. I want what I want, and I want it now. I am in spiritual, emotional, or physical pain, and I want it to go away. But, there may be a lesson to be learned first. There may be a heart to be softened. There might be a soul to be saved. God knows our story; he wrote it. He knows what we are going through, and He knows what we can handle. His view is a view of eternity.

When God seems silent, remember:

Psalm 27:14, “Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.”

Ecclesiastes 3:1, “To everything, there is a season and a time to every purpose under the heaven.”

2 Peter 3:8, “But, beloved, be not ignorant of this one thing, that one day is with the Lord as a thousand years, and a thousand years as one day.”

Lamentations 3:25-26, “The Lord is good unto them that wait for him, to the soul that seeks him”

Know that God does not waste anything. He is always working on our behalf for our salvation. He longs to be in a deep, meaningful relationship with us. That can not happen in a vacuum. When God seems silent, be patient, look into your own heart for clues, seek direction from His Word, and wait. Do not wait passively as someone expecting a gift; wait actively as someone expecting a revelation.

Perceived silence from God is many times the birth of great movements. It is a time of renewal and growth. Do not fear it; strive to understand it. You will see that God is not silent; he may have just changed style to get us to listen closer.

C.S. Lewis said, “though our feelings come and go, God’s love for us does not.”

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Waiting on God

Let me start with a short story about patience. On the very first visit to a prison, God helped me better understand patience when waiting on God. I went with Champions for Life, and I was in Broad River Correctional, Columbia, SC. I was standing next to the rail overlooking the cellblock below me. I was in this particular location to avoid speaking to the inmates. Because it was my first visit, I was uncomfortable, and I didn’t feel I had anything to share. So I was hiding in plain sight. I was there without really being there.

My thoughts were on a hundred things without landing on anything, fleeting moments of clarity that dissipated like the fog in the morning sun. I know they were there, without knowing what they were. Then I heard, “I have been praying for weeks that my lawyer would find a way to get me out of here.” This inmate had settled next to me, without making eye contact with me, and started talking to me. You see, he wasn’t a Christian, but he thought he would try out prayer. He didn’t expect anything, but he had hope. I was a Christian; maybe I knew the answer.

Jeremiah 29:12, “Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you.”

The good news was that this was a conversation that didn’t require scripture memorization. This inmate didn’t know scripture. He had no preconceived theology. He didn’t even know if he had the right to expect an answer. He just made a statement. New evidence came to light that proved his innocence. But getting released was a process, not an event. A lawyer had taken his case and was working on his release. For two months, the inmate hadn’t heard a thing. That had to be incredibly depressing; to have spent years in prison knowing you are innocent, evidence finally surfaces proving your innocence, the release would come from outside the walls, and you were stuck inside.

I can’t remember the exact conversation as none of the words were mine. It went something like this; there was evidence to be reviewed, docket to be cleared, maybe hearts to be softened, liability to be assessed; God’s time is not our time. I remember his response; “Thank you, I prayed for encouragement, and He sent it through you.” That floored me. I couldn’t remember what I said; how could it have been encouraging. Was what I said even true?

1 John 5:15, “And if we know that he hears us—whatever we ask—we know that we have what we asked of him.”

What I took away from that weekend was to wait upon the Lord. I’m impatient, get it done, execution is everything type of guy. Ideas are a dime-a-dozen; success comes from following through. With my first visit to a prison, my challenge was that I wanted to experience changed lives, souls reborn. I wanted God to provide me with immediate fulfillment. I didn’t see this first visit as a step toward a new destination; it was the new destination. I fall into this trap all the time. I’m impatient about God’s plan for my life. Everything is significant, and I want to know why. I want instant feedback to confirm I am on the right path.

How do these seemingly false starts keep me on the right path? Why hasn’t this person or that person responded the way I thought they should? Why has nothing happened when I have worked so hard? I am waiting on the evidence that God is with me.

Mark 11:24, “Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.”

The second I ask, the prayer is answered. When Jesus saw the fig tree without fruit, he cursed it. But it did not die right away.

Mark 11:12-14, “The next day as they were leaving Bethany, Jesus was hungry. Seeing in the distance a fig tree in leaf, he went to find out if it had any fruit. When he reached it, he found nothing but leaves, because it was not the season for figs. Then he said to the tree, “May no one ever eat fruit from you again.” And his disciples heard him say it.”

Mark 11:20, “In the morning, as they went along, they saw the fig tree withered from the roots.”

The fig tree died from the root. It started dying the second it was cursed, but the evidence wasn’t clear until the next morning. God answers prayer the second we ask, but the fruit of that blessing may not be seen for some time. My impatience saps the joy out of that blessing. Sometimes when I don’t get what I want, when I want it, I stop looking and miss the blessing altogether.

Today I have a situation that I have prayed about for years. I have not prayed for a specific resolution, just that one happens. I want God’s will to be done. It ebbs and flows like the tide crashing over the shore; good days followed by bad days followed by good days—every fiber of my being screams out to walk away. I’m tired of it all. But a small, meek voice always cautions me to be patient; one day, God’s plan will be revealed. One day.

God may send someone to encourage you, He may not, but the blessing is already happening. Know that it is happening and know that God is faithful in all things.

Romans 12:12, “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.”

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The Hand of God

Genesis 45:8, “So then, it was not you who sent me here, but God. He made me a father to Pharaoh, lord of his entire household and ruler of all Egypt.”

Today Joseph visited me. He wanted to remind me of something. Remember, Joseph is the guy that alienated himself from his brothers. He listened from the bottom of a well as they bartered away his life. His flesh and blood despised him so much they sold him to an infidel as a slave. Later he was wrongfully accused and sent to prison. Despite all Joseph had been through because of his brothers’ actions, he held no animosity toward them. Instead, he believed the hand of God was in everything.

Joseph reminded me of Ester and Jonah and others in the bible that endured heartbreak and calamity on the path to great things. Joseph consented to God’s power and had hope because of it. Jonah feared God’s providence and ran from it. Ester had to be told by Mordecai. They all were on the path to greatness, but greatness was over the horizon out of view.

I am always reminded that great stories start from great sadness. We love the joy of overcoming and sometimes fly over the journey. We gravitate to the feel-good ending without savoring the life they lived. No one wants to retire in war-torn Beirut. We do not want to talk ourselves to sleep at night by reliving the struggles; we want to bask in the overcoming’s glory.

As I struggle through this day, Joseph reminds me that his journey was critical to his prosperity. It is through his story that he  has value. The things I face today can either be obstacles in the way of my happiness or stepping stones to God’s glory. It is my choice.

John 16:33, “I have told you these things so that in me you may have peace. In the world you have trouble and suffering, but take courage—I have conquered the world.”

The bible is very clear that we will all face struggles in this world. Some of those struggles are of the nascence variety; some are devastating. Their value is mostly seen in the rearview mirror of life. The path is seldom flat, and wide, and lined with flowers. There are a lot of hills and rocks and roots. We shouldn’t lose sight that every twist and turn has meaning and value; God’s cemented His plans in everyday actions.

I love Mordecai’s statement to Ester:

Esther 4:14b, “Who knows if perhaps you were made queen for just such a time as this?”

What we face; what we endure; what we triumph over is part of the fabric of our lives. It is part of the great tapestry God created for you before you came into existence. It is one of the greatest stories ever told, written by the most incredible author in the universe. It is meant to be lived. As hard as that may seem at times, it is true. Joseph was in a well listening to his family, betray him. Ester lost her family and was sent into exile to serve a pagan king. Jonah survived in the stomach of a whale. Each of these had their moments. We, too, will have ours.

It is what we do in those moments that define us. It is who we see in the mirror that determines our greatness. Our efforts do not create our greatness, but the action of the one who made us just for this moment. The courage we must muster is not the courage to overcome, but the courage to reach out our hand and ask our creator to take over; not to struggle and persevere, but to fall into His grace and turn the fight over to Him. Only through Him can we prevail. We can’t see over the horizon, but He can.

We live in trying times. Our plans are on hold, and the future became a fog of uncertainty. God knew this. It is part of His plan for you. It is times as these where we as Christian become separated from the weeds.

Matthew 13:30, “Let both grow together until the harvest. Then I will tell the harvesters to sort out the weeds, tie them into bundles, and burn them, and to put the wheat in the barn.'”

When our time comes, we want people to remember our greatness. We want them to remember how we held tight to God’s promise. We want them to remember when we could have taken the low road, but chose to have faith. We were born for times, such as these.  It is in these moments that God marvels of the greatness He created in us, and the greatness we chose to pursue. Today, choose to make God smile.

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Love

Jesus saved the life of the adulterous women (John 8:1-30) by challenging those who have no sin to cast the first stone. He redeemed her from her sin. He gave her a new life. But if she was anything like me, she kept sinning, maybe not the same sin, but sinning all the same. How does that dynamic work with redemption, and the continuation as a sinner?

It is so easy for me to become immersed in God’s love. It is easy to see how He cares for me and meets my needs, that I sometimes forget the devastating impact of my sin. My life is not a story of condemnation, but a story of love. The very essence of my relationship with Christ is not my sin, but His love. It defines everything.

Matthew 22:37, “And he said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. “

You see, I need His love like a fish needs water. I need to be enveloped in it. It becomes so critical for my existence; I forget it is just as essential as the air I breathe. I am not always aware of oxygen. I can’t see it, but I know it is there and I know I need it. I know what happens when you take it away. But I don’t think about it until it is scarce or absent. Then a sense of panic set in. My mind goes into survival mode, and I fight for my very life. God’s love is like that.

Jerry Bridges said it like this, “God’s unfailing love for us is an objective fact affirmed over and over in the Scriptures. It is true whether we believe it or not. Our doubts do not destroy God’s love, nor does our faith create it. It originates in the very nature of God, who is love, and it flows to us through our union with His beloved Son.”

What drives my relationship with Christ is not overcoming my sin, but craving His love. I hate my sin because to stands in the way of my relationship with Him. When I sin, I feel that His love is scarce or absent, and my heart fights for its very life. Separation from God brings in a panic state. That panic comes in the form of fear, anxiety, depression and loneliness.

1 John 4:18, “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. “

There is a medical condition called a Hiatal Hernia. A Hiatal Hernia is when your stomach bulges up into your chest through an opening in your diaphragm. I know, gross image, I’m sorry. When the tiniest piece of food is caught in this bulge, the patient feels like someone grabbed their throat with both hands and started to squeeze. They have to fight the urge to panic. The truth is that they can breathe just fine, they don’t think they can. They have to consciously tell their diaphragm to keep pumping their lungs; then, they can drink a little water to pass the food into their stomach; it’s over, just like that. Once they understand the dynamics, they can have an episode, and the people sitting across the table from them don’t sense a thing.

The state of sin is like the Hiatal Hernia. The act of sinning is the tiniest piece of food in the hernia. But just like the food doesn’t stop the patient from breathing, the sin does not stop us from being loved by God. The Hiatal Hernia sufferer tells their diaphragm to contract, expanding their lungs, and inhaling oxygen. We, as sinners, must reach out to God, repent of our sin, and experience His love.

Acts 3:19, “Repent, then, and turn to God, so that your sins may be wiped out, that times of refreshing may come from the Lord, 

In the deepest, darkest moments of my life, I survive solely on the knowledge that the God of the universe loves me unconditionally. God made me in His image, and He adores me. He has a plan for me to prosper. What I am going through may not be His making, but he can use it if I let Him. Evil lurks in every dark corner. It strikes without warning or reason. Some evil is from the enemy; some is from our stupidity. God knows this about the world and the people He has placed in it.

St. Augustine said, “God loves each of us as if there were only one of us.”

Once I understand the dynamics of God’s love, I can start to control the panic. I repent of my part of any sin that may have happened, and then I breathe in His love. Just like a Hiatal Hernia, there is discomfort I would prefer not to experience; but it is not fatal.

Matthew 3:8, “Produce fruit in keeping with repentance. “

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Peter Pan

Peter Pan said, “You can have anything in life if you will sacrifice everything else for it.”

Peter wasn’t wrong. Paul put it a little differently.

Philippians 3:7, “But whatever things were gain to me, those things I have counted as loss for the sake of Christ.”

Many people, men, more likely, have sacrificed everything else to gain power, privilege, wealth, or fame. The worldly trappings and the expectations of others drove their view of self-worth; they believed Peter Pan before they believed Paul. They thought that the uneasiness they felt was the product of not having enough. It was just the next thing that would make a difference. Many would look back on their lives and see that they had sacrificed everything in vain.

I don’t want to be that man. I want my life to count for something. I want to leave a legacy that will echo through eternity. In my death, I want to be bigger than life itself.

Matthew 6:19-20, “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on Earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys, and where thieves do not break in or steal.”

The world pulls at us with the gravitation pull of the Sun. It wants to keep us in its orbit of mundane, meaningless accomplishments. Eventually, our orbit will decay, and we will find nothing but a fiery finish. When the time has run out, we will realize that all that we accumulated will either be forgotten or exploited by others we have never met. We cannot reach back for a do-over. The do-over starts now.

Ecclesiastes 5:15, “Everyone comes naked from their mother’s womb, and as everyone comes, so they depart. They take nothing from their toil that they can carry in their hands.”

Joy is a choice, and God wants us to choose joy, but happiness is also part of God’s plan. Not perpetual happiness with laughs and birthday cake, but true deep down happiness that grows from the soul. The type of happiness that brings tranquil sleep. It is a happiness that radiates throughout your body in quiet moments of reflection. It is a contentment that nothing else can give.

Peter Pan also said, “Never is an awfully long time.” To never experience the pure love of Christ is indeed a long time. It makes life a marathon in Death Valley, rather than a walk in the park. To always have to trust in yourself is exhausting. To always have to know the answers, have the plan, make a move, is to live a  life full of anxiety and worry.

Matthew 6:33, “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”

Seeking His kingdom and His righteousness is not just to put your sights on eternity with Christ; it is to live a life worth living here on Earth. It is to free yourself from chasing the esteem from others and only pursuing God. It is about having the type of faith that knows that Christ is with you, and your needs will be met. There will be setbacks and challenges, but you are not in it alone. You do not have to create the person that God wants you to be; God already created them; you have to find them within yourself.

Peter Pan, “To have faith is to have wings.”

Peter Pan wasn’t all wrong, but I’ll take Paul.

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A life Worth Living

I got to thinking this morning about how God interacts with me through the Holy Spirit to prod me down a path toward a life worth living. My mind slowly went to why he puts certain people in my life, people with problems. I like problem-solving, but I am a sticks and bricks kind of guy, not colors and hues. The opportunities God presents aren’t always the people or problems with which I feel comfortable. Sometimes, to be truthful, I would prefer not to deal with them, but God sends them to me anyway.

Romans 15:2-3, “For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me, I was naked and you clothed me, I was sick and you visited me, I was in prison and you came to me.”

Some problems I just don’t get, they seem petty and small. Some people I don’t understand because their problem never changes; they just can’t seem to act. Most are self-inflicted gunshot wounds. Some situations are so painful I wish I didn’t know. But God sends them my way away.

Proverbs 3:27, “Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due, when it is in your power to act.”

Now I know that I do not have any vast knowledge or talent for helping others. I have always been a common sort. But I also know that God does not put people in my life so I can show off. He puts them there so that He can show off His power and compassion. I have always thought of it as Him letting me be part of His plan for another. That was enough to spur me on.

1 John 3:17, “But if anyone has the world’s goods and sees his brother in need, yet closes his heart against him, how does God’s love abide in him?”

The reality is that God puts people in our lives as part of His plan for us. Through them, He can speak to us. Through them, He can help us see when we are petty. Through them, we can see how we do not act when a solution is right in front of us. Through them, we can see the pain in others and give thanks for sparing us the same experience.

Hebrews 6:10, “God is not unjust; he will not forget your work and the love you have shown him as you have helped his people and continue to help them”

God uses these moments to help us see how and when He works. When we are in the depths of our problems, it is hard to be objective. It is hard to step outside ourselves and survey the landscape before acting. It is hard to imagine a solution bigger than our wants.  But God does.

Matthew 25:40, “And the King will answer them, Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me.”

In my life, God uses me to help others to teach me how He helps me. The scripture that feeds their soul, feeds mine. The intersection of their experience with mine is not just me being part of their plan; it is them being part of my plan. I’m not there to be a lifesaver or a lifeboat. I am on the sinking ship with them watching God save us both.

Philippians 2:4, “not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.”

One of the things I have learned in my life is that the root cause of all anxiety is faith, or the lack thereof. I may have lost a job or have someone dear to me suffering; my anxiety does not come for the problem, it comes from my non-belief that God both cares about what I am going through and will act. Because I don’t think He will act, I do not see when He does. I start to believe in fate or serendipity or karma. I don’t see how wonderfully and skillfully God works.

Working through a situation with another allows me objectivity that opens my eyes to how God works. It will enable me to be more objective then I would be if the problem were mine.  He helps me see the times He intervened in my life. God may also show me when I could have leaned on Him and didn’t.

Hebrews 13:16, “Do not neglect to do good and to share what you have, for such sacrifices are pleasing to God.”

When you see someone in need, view it as part of God’s plan for your life. There is a lesson to be learned and an experience to be had, that will help them and yourself. Helping others is not about being a good guy. It is not about the glory of moving God’s plan down the road for another. It is about becoming the person that God knows you can be. It is part of the learning curve along the path to a life worth living.

James 2:14-17, “What good is it, my brothers, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can that faith save him? If a brother or sister is poorly clothed and lacking in daily food, and one of you says to them, “Go in peace, be warmed and filled,” without giving them the things needed for the body, what good is that? So also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead.”

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