There are things you can’t fix in life; you simply have to survive them.

There are things you can not fix, the goal is to surviceAs a man, I have always been drawn to finding solutions. Give me a problem, and my instinct is to roll up my sleeves and get to work. Time and effort rarely discourage me. If I have the will, I believe I can find a way. An obstacle is an invitation to think differently, try again, and keep going. When a solution hasn’t appeared, my first thought is that we simply haven’t found it… yet.

Life Happens

Shel Silverstein captured that spirit in “Listen to the Mustn’ts,” reminding us that even in a world full of limits, possibility remains.

“Listen to the mustn’ts, child, listen to the Don’ts, listen to the shouldn’ts, the impossible, the won’ts. Listen to the never haves, then listen close to me… anything can happen, child, anything can be.” –  Shel Silverstein, 1930 – 1999, Poet, Listen to the Mustn’ts

That belief has carried me a long way. Life, though, has taught me something equally valuable: some problems don’t have the solutions we want. There are relationships that cannot be repaired. Some goodbyes are final. That’s the hard one.

Accepting those truths takes courage. And even when we cannot change an outcome, we still have choices about how we live beyond it. There is hope in that. There is room to grow, to find meaning, and eventually, to feel joy again.

Matthew 6:34: “So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today.”

It’s Not About Solutions

We don’t have to figure out the rest of our lives today. Sometimes our task is simply to take the next breath, accept a helping hand, and do one small thing that moves us forward. A difficult day can be met one moment at a time.

I have learned that loving deeply can mean grieving deeply. When someone or something has brought us tremendous joy, their absence can leave an enormous void. Yet the love we experienced remains part of us. It lives in our memories, in what we learned, and in how we care for others.

We could try to protect ourselves from the crash by never taking flight. But consider what we would miss: connection, laughter, companionship, and the extraordinary experience of loving and being loved. Those things make the risk worth taking, even when our hearts need time to believe it again.

I say this with respect for how overwhelming loss can be. We have all been in that storm. I have known moments when every breath felt difficult, my thoughts moved too quickly to put into words, and getting through the day took everything I had.

It’s About Your Future

In those moments, hope was often small. Sometimes it was a conversation, or someone sitting beside me. Sometimes it was simply giving myself another day.

Here is what I have learned: I am loved. I matter. My presence makes a difference for family and friends, even in ways I may never fully see. I deserve their care, and I can let them help me carry what feels too heavy to carry alone.

Strength includes reaching out. It also includes resting, grieving, and beginning again as many times as we need. Progress can be slow and still be real.

Some things cannot be fixed. Still, a meaningful life can take shape around what we have lost. We can carry forward the love, honor what mattered, and remain open to new people, new purpose, and new joy.

We don’t need every answer to take the next step.

Today, we can choose one small act of courage. We can call someone, step outside, accept support, or simply make room for a moment of peace.

You Are Loved

Right now, there is someone in your life who you don’t see but who is thinking this about you: “I can’t promise how this will turn out, but I will stand beside you through it—you are loved, you matter, and you don’t have to see a way forward for us to take the next step together.”

There is more life ahead. And we are worth the effort it takes to reach it.

“Even during the worst hardships, when the other things in our lives seem to fall apart, we can still find peace in the eternal love of God.” – Armstrong Williams

Your Impact Reaches Beyond What You See

Echoes through eternity, leaving a legacy that transcends time. Your Impact Reaches Beyond What You See. I have had an amazing journey through mountaintops and the deepest valleys. Through it all, God kept investing in me in ways I didn’t always understand, and for a purpose I couldn’t always see. I wanted to share that journey with you.

We are each incredible creatures, designed by a God who loves us unconditionally, each with unique talents and purpose. In our own way, each of us can change the world around us. That may sound like an overstatement, but it is true. Not just the world around us, but the world that has yet to be. A future we will never experience.

You may never know how much your life mattered to someone else.

A conversation you barely remember. Encouragement you offered when someone was ready to quit. A moment when you paused, listened, and helped someone feel less alone. We must acknowledge not the life we planned, but the life we received. We plan in straight lines, but we live in detours.

“The Life I Received” – Chapter 3

What if those moments reach further than you will ever see?

Each Life Has a Sound

However, every life makes a sound.

The sound may not be loud. You may not recognize it at the time. It may be nothing more than a sentence spoken to a discouraged person, a meal shared with someone who felt invisible, a lesson passed to a student, a business skill taught to someone trying to survive, or a stubborn decision to keep loving after loss.

But that sound moves outward. It touches people. Those people touch others. An ordinary action becomes a seed. A seed becomes a tree. A tree drops fruit. Fruit carries more seeds. Long after the original act is forgotten, the echo continues.” – Introduction

That question is at the heart of my book, Echoes Through Eternity: Lessons from an Ordinary Life, now available through Amazon.

Many of you have walked alongside me on this blog. This book brings together years of those reflections into a broader conversation about faith, purpose, grief, courage, and the influence we have on other people’s lives.

“A Tree Does not Hear Its Own Growth” – Chapter 6

Inside, I share lessons from business, service in developing countries, personal loss, and the everyday work of following Christ. Stories of people whose determination reshaped my understanding of purpose, and encounters that taught me how easily we can walk past an opportunity to make a difference.

That Sound Has an Echo

If you have ever wondered whether your work matters, how to move forward after loss, or what God might still have for you in this season of life, I wrote these pages with you in mind.

“Whose Life Are You Going to Change?” – Chapter 12

My hope is that you will recognize your story here—and find encouragement to love well, act courageously, and use what God has placed in your hands today. God lives in the moments. Dramatic moments don’t change lives; the steady drumbeat of a life well lived does.

What echo will your life leave behind?

I invite you to explore Echoes Through Eternity: Lessons from an Ordinary Life. Read the description, try a sample if available, and see whether these pages speak to the questions you carry.

My goal in life, and yours, should be to enrich the life of those we touch. Not through money, power, and fame, but through compassion, love, and grace.

“Echo Through Eternity” – Chapter 20

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I Sometimes Feel Invisible. Silence Verse Apathy

Invisible, the opposite of Love is ApathyI sometimes feel invisible. By nature, I’m a worker bee. I prefer to stay in the background. When the spotlight is on me, I’m uncomfortable. I find it hard to accept a compliment. To me, it’s not about humility; it’s about being truthful. It’s not about lacking self-confidence; it’s about being realistic. I am who I am: nothing extraordinary. I can do what God created me to do.

Philippians 2:3: “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves.”

Life

So for a guy who likes to live in the shadows, why is invisibility a problem? I struggle with that question. I don’t want fame or recognition for greatness. A couple of decades ago, I changed my life significantly. Up to that point, my life was about me. Not in a selfish way, but in a determined one. I wanted to be the best version of me I could be. I would outwork anyone to achieve that goal. It wasn’t about money, position, or fame; it was about self-respect.

Philippians 2:4: “Not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.”

Then one day, God said, “Stop.” He wanted me to realize that life was never about me. It has always been about the people God puts in my path. I was to use all the resources God gave me — intelligence, relationships, experiences, and knowledge — to help others. That lifted an immense weight off my shoulders. I was no longer responsible for results, only for obedience. It was freeing beyond words.

Living in the Shadows

I stepped into the background and have lived there ever since. I like it here. I can do my thing unnoticed. I can create my own version of self-actualization by living vicariously through others’ achievements. The greatest joy of my life is watching others bloom. Every day, I have the joy and privilege of watching people younger than me begin the journey toward becoming the person God always intended them to be. Some of these people are in their twenties.

I think this is the turning point for me. At the same time, I get to see young people experimenting with life, the excitement of discovery, and the joy of becoming. On the other hand, I know they must learn from disappointment and loss.

1 Corinthians 10:24: “Let no one seek his own, but each one the other’s well-being.”

In the middle of this, I get lost. I fade so far into the background that even the shadows forget I’m there. Most of my life, this is OK, even preferred. But not always.

Apathy verse Silence

I don’t know how to present this without sounding at some level arrogant or egotistical. It is not that at all. I have lived an incredible life, with all its ups and downs, knowing how difficult it is to juggle family, work, and community. I understand why I am not the center of anyone’s universe. We are all planets, part of our own solar systems, spinning through one of many galaxies. Life is complex.

1 Thessalonians 5:11: “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.”

My downward spiral begins when I forget that silence is not apathy. Many people trying to survive in the chaos of everyday life are silent, not because they don’t care, but because they are distracted. There is a lot to do when becoming something. Figuring out who you should be and how to achieve that goal is time-consuming. Background noise is drowned out by the cacophony of sounds coming from the moment.

Being Seen Again

We all go through moments of feeling lost. It is part of the rhythm of life. As you grow older, you experience this more often. What these people are accomplishing in their lives is something I envy. It took me forty years to learn what they already know. I want to be part of their orbit. When I am not, I feel invisible.

That is, until we meet face-to-face. Then we see each other for who we are and rejoice in that knowledge. The cloak of invisibility falls away, and I am me again. We talk about lives lived, victories won, and the scars left by learning.

Silence is seldom apathy. Sometimes it’s just life being life.

Proverbs 12:25: “Anxiety weighs down the heart, but a kind word cheers it up.”

The Consequences of Past Sin

Self forgiveness One unfortunate aspect of God’s love is that He allows us to experience the natural consequences of our sin. If there were no consequences, we would not learn to avoid sin. Sometimes the consequences last long after we have repented.

1 Peter 5:10, “And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm, and steadfast.”

I know that, in my life, it means I live with some regrets. There are things I did before I knew Christ that still leave a stain on my life. I know the repercussions are my fault, but that doesn’t make them any less painful. I wonder sometimes how long I have to continue to live with the consequences. The truth is, maybe the rest of my life. Some sins affect us that way.

As Christians, especially when dealing with other Christians, we feel we should be forgiven. It is what Christ expects of us when we are offended. Why shouldn’t we expect it from others? Life isn’t that simple. God forgives; we don’t necessarily forgive ourselves.

Hebrews 8:12, “For I will forgive their wickedness and will remember their sins no more.”

There are many reasons the consequences linger. Sometimes the offended party has moved on. They no longer see the offense. It is a thing of the past that does not need revisiting. It is not forgiveness; it is acceptance. At other times, the offended person has forgiven but does not want to risk being hurt again. They don’t hold on to the hurt; they simply don’t want to open themselves up to it again. Then there is the obvious: we earned it.

Proverbs 4:23, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”

The “we earned it” part is the hardest. It is an acknowledgment that this is on us. We built this house; we have to live in it. That belief can lead to depression or worse. Holding on to the truth that we somehow deserve what we are getting can drag us down. This fatalism carries a sense of finality. We submit to our circumstances. Fractured relationships may never become whole; they just become less broken.

Colossians 3:3, “For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God.”

These consequences are not God punishing us for disobedience. They are the natural consequences of living in a fallen world. Sin brings correction. Don’t mistake God’s course correction for us when He sees the need. By definition, it is not punishment but a means of putting us on the right path, sometimes with rebuke.

The biggest sins are not momentary lapses of control, such as anger or an outburst of discompassionate honesty. They are environmental sins, those that manifest as repetitive behavior over time. We become someone we shouldn’t be. These circumstances are hard to mend. Trust is fragile.

Psalm 51:10, “Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.”

This is not a solution; it is simply what I do. I try to live as closely aligned with God as possible, extending grace, compassion, and love to what I see as the offended party. I am not trying to explain or seek reconciliation, just to model who I should have always been. Letting who I have become slowly seep into their image of me. In a perfect world, they will one day initiate a discussion about it. But we don’t live in a perfect world, so I will accept that they may quietly acknowledge that I have changed. The offense will die as a new relationship is born.

Jeremiah 29:12-13, “Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.”

God is against sin, not because He has a set of rules we must follow to prove our allegiance. He created us and knows what sin does to us, and He wants to spare us that pain. We don’t always listen, and pain seeps into our lives.

But you are not who you were.

2 Corinthians 5:17, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!”

Christian Leadership

LeadershipThe single most important thing a leader can give their best people isn’t perks or even money; it’s a goal worth their time. That is an important point. Whether we accept the role or not, as Christians we are leaders. As Christians, we are watched, and people decide whether what we say we believe in is worth investing in.

The Question

So, the question is: Do we give them a goal worth their time?

Hebrews 13:7, “Remember your leaders, who spoke the word of God to you. Consider the outcome of their way of life and imitate their faith.”

What does your life say about your beliefs? I have written a lot about how precious time is. We don’t get do-overs for wasted time. That isn’t to say downtime is wasted, but is it intentional? Right now, I am more interested in uptime. What do we say to the world about how we use productive time to reflect a life worth living?

2 Timothy 2:15, “Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a worker who does not need to be ashamed and who correctly handles the word of truth.”

I remember reading that Christ isn’t just preparing a place for us but preparing us for that place. To me, that means the life we are living right now as aliens on this planet has meaning. The way we live here and now is preparation for eternity.

The Answer

When people watch us go about our everyday lives, do they see something worth aspiring to? Is it appealing to them? How do we handle disappointment and setbacks? Do we interact with strangers and those in need with compassion and grace? How do we celebrate success? Do we see it as a reflection of our achievements or as the natural outcome of a greater plan?

Romans 8:28, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”

We cannot always be happy; happiness is conditional. But we can be joyful. We can choose to see life unfolding predictably, even when we do not know the outcome. True followers know the outcome is in our best interest, even when it does not align with our plan.

We have an inner strength that gives us confidence in our abilities and keeps us from being dependent on others. We don’t compete with others because our plans differ from theirs. That is not to say we aren’t competitive, but that we see value in both winning and losing. Both have lessons worth learning.

Is there a calmness in our everyday life that is enviable? Is Christ merely a mythical figure who promises life after death, or is He real in the life I am living today? Does my life have meaning and value, or is it merely temporary and difficult to endure?

1 Timothy 4:8b, “but godliness has value for all things, holding promise for both the present life and the life to come.”

Is Christianity a goal worth my time?

Most practicing Christians ebb and flow. They see God’s hand in everyday events when they look for it, but miss the ones they were too busy to notice. Christians can see the value of compassion when it is a choice, but miss it amid a chaotic moment. They are good at implementing projects for the good of others, but often fail when life is thrust upon them.

We are all a work in progress. We are being prepared for what is next. Preparation is an active process that requires diligence and perseverance. So I ask again: As a Christian thrust into the role of leadership, are you giving others a goal worth their time?

One day at a time, one moment at a time, one decision at a time. Take care of the now, and tomorrow will take care of itself.

James 3:17, “But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere.”

What Was There Before?

BeforeThe basic question one asks when seeking God is: what was there before? As humans with limited knowledge and finite experience, we struggle to grasp something that has no beginning or end. Our minds are wired for sequence—before and after, cause and effect, start and finish. Everything we have ever known fits within that framework.

So when we turn our attention to the universe, we instinctively ask:

What was there before it began?

No matter how we theorize about its origin, we feel there had to be something prior—something that set things in motion. That instinct is deeply human. It reflects how we understand everything else in life. Every event has a cause. Every effect has a source. Nothing appears without explanation.

Or so it seems.

Psalm 33:6, “By the word of the Lord the heavens were made, their starry host by the breath of his mouth.”

Following the Chain

Science has taken us remarkably far in answering the “how” of existence.

We can trace the universe backward through expanding galaxies to an early, dense state described by the Big Bang theory. We can move deeper still, beyond matter into energy, and further into the quantum fields that govern particle behavior. At that level, what appears to be space is anything but empty. It fluctuates. It moves. It produces temporary bursts of energy, governed in part by the Heisenberg uncertainty principle.

But this only pushes the question back.

If particles come from fields, where do the fields come from?
If fluctuations arise from laws, where do the laws come from?

We move from one explanation to the next, but the chain never completes. It simply ends—somewhere.

Ecclesiastes 3:11, “He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end.”

Where Explanation Stops

At some point, every explanation reaches a boundary.

Philosophers such as Aristotle recognized this long before modern science. If every cause requires a prior cause, you are left with two options: either the chain goes back infinitely, or there is something that does not require a cause.

Later thinkers, such as Thomas Aquinas, argued that an infinite regress does not truly explain anything. Instead, there must be something that is—something that does not come from anything else and exists by necessity rather than by chance.

Modern thinkers have challenged that idea. Bertrand Russell famously dismissed the need for a deeper explanation, saying the universe is “there, and that’s all.”

Three different conclusions. Three different stopping points. None of them is fully satisfying.

John 1:3, “Through him all things were made; without him nothing was made that has been made.”

The Problem with “Before”

Part of the difficulty stems from the question itself.

When we ask what came “before” the universe, we assume time existed before the universe. But according to modern physics, time is not outside the universe—it is part of it. It began with the universe.

2 Peter 3:8, “But do not forget this one thing, dear friends: With the Lord a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a day.”

If that is true, asking what came before the universe may be like asking what lies north of the North Pole. The question assumes a framework that no longer holds.

And yet, even if we remove time from the equation, the deeper question remains:

Why is there something rather than nothing?

Colossians 1:16, “For in him all things were created: things in heaven and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or powers or rulers or authorities; all things have been created through him and for him.”

Four Ways to End the Question

When we strip everything down, there are only a few ways to answer that question.

      1. Something has always existed.
        Reality, in some form, is eternal. There is no beginning to explain.
      2. Something exists necessarily.
        There is a foundational reality that must exist. Everything else depends on it.
      3. Reality explains itself.
        The universe is a closed system with no need for an external cause.
      4. There is no explanation.
        Existence is a brute fact. It simply is.

These are not scientific conclusions. They are philosophical endpoints. Every line of reasoning eventually lands in one of them.

What We Are Really Asking

When we ask what came before the universe, we are not really asking about time. We are asking about dependence.

      • What does everything else depend on?
      • What is the foundation beneath the foundation?
      • What is the one thing that does not require an explanation?

We can move backward from matter to energy, from energy to fields, and from fields to laws—but eventually we encounter something that does not point to anything else.

At that point, explanation gives way to acceptance.

Hebrews 11:3, “By faith we understand that the universe was created by the word of God, so that what is seen was not made out of things that are visible.”

The Quiet Conclusion

There is a point in this line of thinking where progress stops—not because the question is flawed, but because we have reached the limits of what explanation can do.

Something must exist that does not come from anything else.

It just is.

1 Corinthians 8:6, “Yet for us there is but one God, the Father, from whom all things came and for whom we live; and there is but one Lord, Jesus Christ, through whom all things came and through whom we live.”

Fear Buries Purpose not by Force, but by Permission.

Fear Buries PurposeFear buries purpose not by force, but by permission. Giving in to the fear of failure hides your ability to reach your potential. Fear is the loud giant roaring in your mind, while faith is that whisper that pushes you forward. Too many times, we listen to the roaring giant because we can’t hear the whisper. We become less than God meant us to be, a shell of who we could have become.

Rationalization of Fear

2 Timothy 1:7, “For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.”

Fear is not from God. If fear is driving your decisions, something other than God is shaping your future.

The sad part is that we accept outcomes as destiny. We justify results based on effort, not potential. Fear doesn’t just scare us; it rewrites our beliefs. It convinces us that safety equals wisdom, that smallness equals humility, and that resignation equals maturity. We start calling retreat “discernment” and paralysis “patience.” That’s how fear survives—by disguising itself as reason.

Psalm 56:3, “When I am afraid, I put my trust in you.”

Potential is Stewardship

But potential is not a suggestion. It is stewardship.

Proverbs 29:25, “The fear of man lays a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is safe.”

What we often call destiny is simply the sum of our surrendered decisions. We accept outcomes as if they were set in stone, when in reality, many were negotiated away out of fear, not through rebellion, but through caution, hesitation, and waiting until we felt ready, qualified, or safe.

If you listen to your fears, you will die never knowing what a great person you might have been. ~ Robert H. Schuller

Joshua 1:9, “Be strong and courageous… Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”

Fear Does Not Make Us Evil

Fear does not make us evil. It makes us incomplete.

And the tragedy isn’t failure. Failure refines, teaches, and humbles.
The real tragedy is never trying because we convince ourselves that silence is obedience.

Isaiah 41:10, “Fear not, for I am with you… I will strengthen you, I will help you.”

Faith is not loud. It seldom competes with fear in volume. It speaks through invitations: ‘Step forward.’ ‘Trust Me.’ ‘You were made for more.”

The question is not if fear will roar, because it always will.
The real question is whether we will base our lives on noise or on truth.

We are not victims of fate; we are stewards of a calling. Fear isn’t just a limit on the present—it shortens the impact of the echo that is your life.

Psalm 27:1, “The Lord is my light and my salvation—whom shall I fear?”

Why is Christ Hard to Believe In?

Christianity, living like ChristAnd why is Christ Hard to Believe In?

People are often not rejecting Christ Himself; they reject a distorted image of Him created by human failure, cultural noise, and personal wounds. Most reasons are relational and experiential, grounded in distrust, pain, disappointment, or fear rather than in logic alone.

The most significant cause of atheism today is Christians who acknowledge Jesus with their lips but deny Him by their actions. That’s what an unbelieving world can’t believe.” – Brennan Manning.

The Distorted Image of Christ

If people are rejecting a distorted image of Christ instead of Christ Himself, then the conversation is no longer about winning arguments. It becomes about clearing away the fog that hides who He really is.

Most people have never met the Christ of the Gospels.
They have met:

      • the Christ of politics
      • the Christ of shame
      • the Christ of control
      • the Christ of hypocrisy
      • the Christ of cultural religion

But those are not Him. Those are human projections laid on top of Him.

The Real Christ

Jesus did not reject broken people; He rejected the self-righteous. He did not crush doubt; He welcomed it closer. Christ did not use power; He emptied Himself of it.

When someone says they reject Christ, they usually mean:  “I reject what I’ve seen done in His name,” “I reject the version of God that was used to wound me,” and “I reject a God who looks nothing like love.”

And honestly… they should.

Because a Christ who is petty, manipulative, tribal, or cruel isn’t truly Christ at all.

It shifts responsibility to where it truly belongs. Not onto unbelievers for “not seeing,” but onto believers for “not revealing.”

We are not called to defend Christ as if He were fragile; we are called to reflect Him as if He were alive.

And when He is seen clearly, without fear, power, and ego clouding the view, He becomes surprisingly hard to reject. The most vivid image of Christ most people will ever see isn’t a sermon or a verse. It is a life quietly reflecting His character.

How to Change the World View

Be a person who:

⇒ Is safe to be around.
Christ was safe to be around. The broken were not afraid of Him. Children ran toward Him. Sinners stayed in His presence.

Psalm 46:1, “God is our place of safety. He gives us strength. He is always there to help us in times of trouble.”

⇒ Listens more than they speak.
Jesus asked questions that let people reveal themselves. Listening is not passive; it is a form of love. When someone feels heard, defenses soften.

1 John 5:14, “This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us.”

⇒ Refuse to weaponize truth.
Truth without grace feels like condemnation. Grace without truth feels like indifference. Christ carried both without crushing either.

John 8:32, “Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”

⇒ Let repentance be visible.
Nothing dismantles a distorted image of Christ faster than a believer who can say, “I was wrong.” Pride hardens. Humility disarms.

Matthew 3:8, “Produce fruit in keeping with repentance.”

⇒ Loves without an agenda.
Christ loved first and let transformation follow. Love that expects nothing in return looks divine.

Lamentations 3:22-23, “The Lord loves us very much. So we haven’t been destroyed. His loving concern never fails. His great love is new every morning. Lord, how faithful you are!”

⇒ Lives mercifully in small places.
Kindness in traffic. Patience in frustration. Integrity when no one sees. These are the pixels that form the picture of Christ.

Ephesians 2:4-5, “But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ.”

Conclusion

You don’t “fix” the world’s image of Christ. You become one clear window.

One honest reflection. One life that quietly says, “He is better than what you were shown.”

James 3:17, “But the wisdom that comes from heaven is pure. That’s the most important thing about it. And that’s not all. It also loves peace, considers others, obeys, and is full of mercy and good fruit. It is fair, not pretending to be what it is not.”

The Parable of the Talents: Six Great Truths

Story of the 10 TalentsThe parable of the Talents in Matthew 25:14-30 gives us six great truths. 

The First Great Truth: Different Talents, Same Divine Intent

In Matthew 25:14-30, Jesus shares a story that speaks directly to our modern desire for fairness and our obsession with comparing ourselves to others. In the Parable of the Talents, the master distributes wealth—vast wealth—but not equally. One servant gets five talents, another two, and another just one. Scripture explains why: “He gave to each according to his ability.” There’s no apology, no explanation, no defense of fairness. The master doesn’t victimize the man with one talent or guilt the man with five because of his wealth. He entrusts each person with what suits him, then observes what each will choose to do.

This is the first great truth of the parable: God does not distribute opportunities equally, but He distributes them purposefully. Every servant received exactly what was aligned with his design. And that truth extends into your life as well. You are not an afterthought of heaven, or an accidental oversight in God’s distribution of gifts. You were shaped with intention, precision, and purpose. Your strengths and weaknesses, your joys and sorrows, your passions and wounds are part of the divine design God has crafted for your calling.

The Second Great Truth: Resources Do Not Define Your Destiny

The second truth of the parable is perhaps the most freeing: your starting point doesn’t matter spiritually, eternally, or cosmically. What matters is how you choose to use what God has entrusted to you now. The servants with five talents and two talents doubled their resources, and although their results weren’t identical, their reward was. Both heard the exact words: “Well done, good and faithful servant.” They were not praised for equal outcomes but for equal faithfulness.

Success is not about having much, but about doing a lot. They worked, invested, created, and built. The size of the gift was never the measure—faithful stewardship was. God does not compare your life to anyone else’s; He looks at whether you are obedient with the gifts, resources, and opportunities He placed in your hands.

The Third Great Truth: When Fear Buries Purpose

The servant with one talent did not fail because he had less. He failed because he refused to act. Fear drove him to bury what he had—to protect it, hide it, and ultimately waste it. He justified his fear, but fear never yields results. Fear keeps what God intended to increase. In the end, the master did not accept fear as a valid excuse for unfaithfulness.

This truth runs deep in our world today. We live in a culture that tells us our identity is shaped by what we lack—our disadvantages, hardships, or inequities. But Scripture teaches the opposite: you are not defined by your lack; your Creator defines you. God does not judge you based on what others have received. He judges you based on what you do with what you have received.

The Fourth Great Truth: You are Perfectly and Uniquely Designed for Your Assignment

Every part of your story—your personality, skills, experiences, resources, relationships, education, upbringing, trauma, victories, and even your scars—is part of the sacred toolkit God created specifically for your calling. Nothing is accidental, or wasted, or missing that God intended for you to have. You are perfectly designed—not generically, but uniquely—for the purpose He has set before you.

Adam Allred of Doughboy Nation states this clearly: “God doesn’t measure you against anyone else. He measures what you did with what He put in your hand.” That captures the core message of the Parable of the Talents. God never questions, “Why didn’t you have more?” Instead, He asks, “What did you do with what I gave you?” Your life represents your set of talents: your mission, your responsibility, your opportunity.

The Fifth Great Truth: Faithfulness, Not Fairness, Is Heaven’s Standard

At the end of the parable, the master rewards the faithful servants with the same invitation into his joy. They did not achieve equal results, but they demonstrated equal faithfulness, and that is the currency of God’s kingdom. Then, in a moment that challenges our modern ideas of fairness, the master takes the unused talent from the unfaithful servant and gives it to the one who already had ten. If the story were about fairness, that moment would seem unjust. But the parable is not about fairness—it’s about stewardship. God amplifies what is used and diminishes what is wasted.

The Final Great Truth: Your Starting Line is not Your Finish Line

This parable conveys a profound truth: your life is the talent God has entrusted to you. You did not choose your starting point; your family, circumstances, advantages, or limitations, but you are fully responsible for how you respond. The world may emphasize inequality, but God emphasizes intentional creation.  Privilege is the domain of the world, but God focuses on purpose. The world may compare results, but God measures faithfulness.

One day, each of us will stand before God, and His question will not be, “How much did you have?” but “How faithful were you with what I placed in your hands?” The powerful truth—the truth that sets us free—is that the same “Well done” is available to everyone, regardless of whether they started with five talents, two, or one. You were created with a divine purpose. You were placed in this specific moment in history for a reason. And you already have everything you need to fulfill the purpose God designed for you.

Your starting line is not your finish line, your limitations are not your identity, and your past is not your verdict. You were made for multiplication, designed for impact, and given a purpose. So take what God has placed in your hands and use it with courage. Use it with faith. Keep using it until the day you hear the words that echo beyond time itself: “Well done, good and faithful servant.”

Jeremiah 32:19, “Great are your purposes and mighty are your deeds. Your eyes are open to the ways of all mankind; you reward each person according to their conduct and as their deeds deserve.”

An Opinion is only a State of Mind.

Christians making ChristiansAn opinion is only a state of mind; it does not predict the future. Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines opinion as “a view, judgment, or appraisal formed in the mind about a particular matter.” We too often give too much credence to someone’s opinion, including our own. Many of the disagreements I hear are formed when opinions differ.

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” — Viktor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning.

Christian Opinion

As a Christian, I think it is time to walk back our opinions. We often take too strong a stand on our emotional state about a subject. The genesis of our opinions is not our knowledge of the future, but environmental elements of our past. We form opinions because of past experiences, cultural, or social influences, media information, peer pressure, group dynamics, personal and emotional bias, education, and personal interest. There are probably many other reasons, but none of these reasons is knowledge of the future.

Colossians 4:6 – “Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.”

Having a strong opinion about a matter does nothing to make a difference. Making a difference comes from active involvement in relieving the condition you oppose or improving a condition in which you feel a deficit. Telling everyone you meet your opinion only stirs up controversy. Controversy gives birth to anxiety, which fosters conflict.

2 Timothy 2:23-24 – “Have nothing to do with foolish, ignorant controversies; you know that they breed quarrels. And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but kind to everyone, able to teach, patiently enduring evil.”

Influencers

We live in a dysfunctional world full of misinformation and half-truths. Millions of people write online articles to create conflict by influencing public opinion. They do this out of greed, not as a public service. The more diversion they can create, the more site traffic they create, the more advertising income they receive. These are not people interested in improving the world. Their goal is to create income with passionate speeches and convoluted logic.

Ephesians 4:29 – “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.”

“Tolerance isn’t about not having beliefs. It’s about how your beliefs lead you to treat people who disagree with you.” – Tim Keller, The Reason for God: Belief in an Age of Skepticism (2008)

There are legitimate influencers with a true passion for their cause. Some of their causes are misguided and based on sketchy logic, but they are heartfelt. Some influencers take great pains to find the truth and communicate it with an objective view, but it is rare. We are all influenced by the abovementioned reasons; no one is above unconscious influence.

Our Position

Proverbs 18:2 – “A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion.”

“One of the great uses of Twitter and Facebook will be to prove at the Last Day that prayerlessness was not from lack of time.”- John Piper, A Godward Life: Savoring the Supremacy of God in All of Life (1997)

Our position as Christians is to rise above the ordinary. We can’t stop having opinions—God-given emotions overflow into opinions—but we can watch how we communicate them; consciously acknowledging that they are emotions, not facts. Changing the future by arguing a position is counterintuitive. We change the future by doing, not talking.

James 1:19 – “Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger.”