Being Loved is Life

Being loved is life; it is what gives us substance and hope. Love fuels our passion for life. However, only when we learn to love do we start to understand what it means to be loved.

Being loved is life’s second greatest blessing; loving is the greatest. – Jack Hyles

Ephesians 2:4-5, “But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions—it is by grace you have been saved.”

DESIRE

One of my greatest desires and fears is to be loved. I have loved very deeply and hurt because of it. But I know that on those nights when sleep evades me, my mind starts to wander to a place I go to what it would be like to be completely loved; not the love I have experienced in my life but a deep-abiding love mentioned in the Bible.

1 Corinthians 13: 13, "And now these three remain faith, hope, and Love. But the greatest of these is Love."

I lay in the darkness, with no distractions but my thoughts, thinking about love with no agenda, secrets, or motive other than me. I think about a love so consuming that it dictates my existence, a love so large it threatens my heart. It captures me with an attraction that terrifies me. To have and then lose a love like this would be devastating.

Colossians 3:14, "And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony."

LOVE

Altruistic, unselfish, complete love that quenched my desire to be loved is potent. My desire for it makes me vulnerable to its power. To lose it would be to fall into a deep black hole with no escape. The joy of experiencing a love like that is balanced by the pain that would occur if I lost it. And with that thought, I retreat into my world. I return to the safety of a worldly love bartered and traded. I content myself with minor love and minor pain, emotions that I can understand. It is a human love that is well-intended but flawed. Because of that, we build an invisible wall around our hearts to protect us from pain, and that same wall holds back what we can give.

To love someone means to see him as God intended him. – Fyodor Dostoevsky

1 John 4:19, "We love because he first loved us."

The love I desire is out there. It has existed since before time. God, in His infinite wisdom, built the desire for that love into us. It is that hollow feeling we have that we are never complete. You are trying to fill that hole when you chase fame and fortune. Drugs, alcohol, money, status, sex, and power are cheap alternatives. But, ultimately, it is more drugs, alcohol, status, sex, and power we crave because the desire remains. The fire rages because we have not found the one source that will fulfill that desire once and for all time.

1 John 4:7-8, "Dear friends, let us love one another, for Love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. 8 Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is Love."

CHALLENGE

The challenge is that God’s love is not manifest in worldly trappings. He does not replace His love with cheap imitations. He does not confuse our desire to love and be loved, with our desire to possess. One desire demands purity the other grovels in our sinful nature. One looks at eternity; the other looks only at today.

Everything God does is Love — even when we do not understand Him. – Basilea Schlink

God is love in its most pure form. God’s very existence defines that He will freely give Himself without hesitation. God does not fear loss as we do. Instead, he gives and gives and gives. There is no limit to what He will do to demonstrate His love to us. Because His love is perfect, we do not have to fear loss. He will always be with us for eternity.

Deuteronomy 7:9, "Know therefore that the Lord your God is God; he is the faithful God, keeping his covenant of love to a thousand generations of those who love him and keep his commandments."

In the dark of the night, I try to set aside my worldly experiences and trust in His promise. I dream of overcoming my fear and fully embracing what God has always wanted for me, to learn to lean on my faith that He will do everything He has promised. I want to free my heart to love as He loves me because being loved is life.

Hebrews 10:23, "Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful."