Loving Ourselves

Our close friends are our close friends because we see their strengths. We know they have weaknesses, but they are overshadowed by what we see as gifts and skills that we admire. When asked, we help them build up their faults, but mostly we overlook them for the sake of our friendship. They bring light and joy to our lives despite minor flaws.

We are far more critical of ourselves. We rationalize that our strengths are common and our weaknesses are glaring; to doubt yourself is to be human.

It is easy for us to struggle with our weaknesses, our frustration with our sin, and our lack of focus on Christ. We become our own worst critics. We need to remember that God created us and understands our weaknesses. He understands that we will falter.

Psalm 103: 13-14, “The Lord is like a father to his children, tender and compassionate to those who fear him. For he knows how weak we are”

Life is full of pressure to excel. We have conflicting roles as parent, child, sibling, provider, mentor, and friend. Many of us are someone’s child, someone’s sibling, and someone’s parent at the same time. We are a provider at work and home. We play roles as the mentor and friend and sometimes the disciplinarian to the same people. In all of these things, we want to do our best. But we are mere mortals with limited capacity.

Ecclesiastes 3:20, “Both go to the same place—they came from dust, and they return to dust.”

We need to rise above self-condemnation. We need to find a way to replay the tapes of our victories over the sound of our defeats. God does that; God rejoices when we obey. God delights when we overcome. God wants us to live a life worth living, not a life filled with regret and remorse. When we turn from God, God does not turn from us.

Romans 3:3, “What then? If some did not believe, their unbelief would not nullify the faithfulness of God, will it?”

SATAN LOVES DOUBT

One of Satan’s most effective tools to keep us distant from Christ is self-doubt. Satan knows we all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. He uses that knowledge to his advantage. He knows many of us will see through this attempt to vilify our existence, so he takes a more circuitous route; he magnifies our flaws until they overshadow our strengths. The Grand Canyon was created through millions of years of erosion, don’t let slight imperfections create vast chasms in your faith.

Corinthians 11:14, “ And no wonder! For Satan, himself transforms himself into an angel of light.”

He does not lead us to outright self-condemnation, just self-incrimination. He tells us God forgives sin if we truly repent and turn from our ways, but we aren’t doing that, are we? Are we turning from our sinful ways? If we are truly repentant, why do we still sin? Other people are doing a better job of it than we are. Other people have their act together. God is not happy with our effort. We create separation from God.

1 John 1:9, “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.”

Stop letting this broken world get inside your head and dictate your existence. Stop comparing yourself to others around you. Instead, compare yourself to the person Christ has always wanted you to be. He created you to be that person. You have everything you need to achieve it. It won’t be the same as anyone around you. You are unique in this world; embrace that uniqueness. Although time and again, you will fall short or fail, that is the by-product of living in a broken world. It does not define the person God made you.

What will distance you from Christ is not your sin; it is the thought that your sin will separate you from Christ. Your decision to dwell on your shortcomings is the differentiator, not the shortcomings. Everyone is created uniquely for a specific purpose. Comparing your purpose with someone else’s purpose is meaningless. Embrace your moment, rest in the assurance that you and you alone were created for it; no one can be a better you.

Esther 4:14, “Perhaps this is the moment for which you have been created.”

TURN THE TIDE

Philippians 4:8, “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.”

Whenever negative thoughts creep into your head, change directions. We all have a laundry list of good qualities, many we take for granted. If a list of good qualities is hard to remember, write them down. Keep adding to the list as new things come to mind. Soon you will start to see you as God sees you, beautifully and wonderfully made.

Psalms 139:14, “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”

C.S Lewis says in Mere Christianity: “Aim at Heaven, and you will get the earth thrown in: aim at earth, and you will get neither.” Focus on the great attributes given to you by God, and joy, peace, and contentment will be yours. Focus on being what the world defines, and you will lose your salvation along with joy, peace, and contentment.

1 Samuel 16:7, “… The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”